If you're tired of having conversations with guys you date about why you're not having an orgasm, save your breath and point them to this new Flip The Script video from Mic.
In the video, Liz Plank interviews men on the street to find out if they've spent money on books about how to achieve a male orgasm, if they feel like they've locked the full potential of their penises, and if they had to struggle to figure out what they like in bed. Of course, they all say they haven't spent money on that, they def have unlocked their full penis potential, and it wasn't hard figuring out what they like in bed. Most women on the other hand obviously can't say the same.
Plank then speaks with an instructor at a company called One Taste, which practices "orgasmic meditation," which they say is a "consciousness practice that includes the genitals." They say the practice is to have your partner stroke your vagina for 15 minutes with "no goal" and to spend that time tuning into what's happening during the process. The couple in the video say the practice has been helpful to them, which makes sense because mindfulness of any kind is always helpful, especially in sex, which can often be more goal-oriented than it should be.
The video also notes a study that says lesbian women have more orgasms than straight women, which brings us back to the original point, which is that your body is fine and your partner is the one who needs to up his game.
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.