Ideally, you're comfortable enough with the person you're boning that you don't feel the need to keep any major secrets from one another. But this isn't an ideal world—secrets are scary, Scorpios exist, and sharing something super personal can often feel more intimate than sex.
And so, despite the fact that almost everyone has them, it turns out that a lot of men are out here keeping secrets about their sexual fantasies, according to an online survey from Superdrug, a telemedicine service. More than 45 percent of men surveyed said they're not totally honest about their sexual fantasies with their current partner, making them the thing men are most likely to be dishonest about, related to sex.
To be fair, sex fantasies was the most common response among women too, with 41 percent of women surveyed saying they're not super forthcoming about them with their current partner. Still, that's fewer women than men! So based on this survey's results, it seems women are at least a bit more willing to share the details of their sexiest fantasies with a partner than men are.
Of course it isn't crucial to your sexual satisfaction or safety that you share your sexual fantasies. Maybe keeping them close to the cuff, for your satisfaction (and masturbation routine) only, is what makes them ~special~. But a lot of good can come from sharing your fantasies with a partner, even if you never plan to act on them. Sharing secrets fosters intimacy, and talking about sex and what you want in bed is on basically every sexpert's list of tips for a more satisfying sex life. Also, if shame or a sense that your sex fantasies are somehow dirty or wrong is what's keeping you from opening up, stop that. Sex fantasies are totally normal and healthy, and probably you share yours with more people than you think.
Superdrug's survey results churned up all sorts of juicy info on what people are the most and least honest about in the bedroom. Like apparently, very few people are dishonest about whether or not they have STIs, and a ton of people (yes, men too) are faking their orgasms (STOP!!). You can check out the full report of results over on Superdrug, and then feel free to go home and grill TF out of your partner after.
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.