8 Sex Positions For Rope Play That'll Put You In Charge

Or your partner, if that's your thing.
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Bondage is an amazing way to tap into the psychological aspects of sexthe stuff that makes sex sexy, instead of just body parts rubbing each other. Tying someone up, or allowing yourself to be bound, is about trust, uncertainty, submission, creativity, communication, control and surrender. It can take your relationship and your sex life to the next level. And bondage doesn’t have to be hardcore; it can be as light or as intense as you and your partner want it to be and feel comfortable with, and you can always take things up a notch once you start to feel even more comfortable and get more turned on by it.

Before you start with the tying, there are some important things to keep in mind. That is, stop immediately if anyone is uncomfortable, set ground rules ahead of time, don't use materials that could be dangerous (for example, a pair of tights used as a rope can get too tight and cut off circulation), keep scissors nearby for emergency escape and make sure you absolutely trust your partner.

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If you have no idea where to start, here are a few creative positions to get you going. Note: These positions are geared toward you doing the binding, but can (and should!) be switched around. You can use bondage materials you bought expressly for this purpose, or, if you’re just dipping your toes or want to get started right away, you can use whatever you have laying around the house. Get creative!

Pass the Velvet Rope

For comfort in the discomfort that is being tied up, try a standing position using restraints that fit over a door. (You can also bind their wrists to the door knob.) They can either be facing you to see what you have in store for them, or keep them on edge by facing them towards the door. Try using only your mouth to touch them to focus their attention extra on every sensation.

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Over the Moon

Bend your partner over a sturdy bar stool, binding their ankles and wrists to the stool leg. You can flog them gently (or not so gently) or torture them otherwise with tongue, toy or the promise of penetration if they beg hard enough.

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This Little Piggie

If you want to try the classic bondage position of hog-tying but aren't (yet) a master, go ahead and cheat a little with a restraint system that does the positioning for you. Your lovah/victim lies on their stomach while you bind their ankles and arms behind their back. They'll still be pretty restricted in their movements, but the restraint makes it a little more comfortable and less hardcore. Reward their good behavior with a lubey reacharound.

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The Hot Seat

Sit 'em in a straight-backed chair, tie each of their legs to the chair legs and their wrists behind them. Blindfold them so they'll be hyper-alert to whatever you chose to do with them. Some people like being teased with a feather or ice cube and your warm mouth. Others might want something rougher like a random slap or a whack on the thighs with a spatula. That parts for y'all to work out ahead of time with clear ground rules.

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Tie Me Up Tie Me Down

Start them off easy with a single silk tie (you can buy special bondage ties or just use a plain ol' men's tie) to tie their wrists together over their head. Lie them on their back and mount them, telling them they are absolutely not allowed to move. Until you say so, anyway.

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On The Ropes

Go a little deeper with rope bondage. (Safety first: Don't tie too tight. Have scissors on hand in case of a problem.) You can't ever communicate too much during bondage, so ask your partner along the way how things feel. They kneel with their face to the floor, butt in the air and their wrists tied to their ankles. Slide a finger into their bum and use the other hand to give them a lubey hand job. Make them beg for it first, of course.

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The Mark

Never will someone be more at your mercy than when they are on their back and completely open to whatever is gonna go down. Have them (or hell, order them) to lie on their back and open their legs for you. Their arms go under their knees and hands on their outside ankles so you can bind their wrists to their ankles (there's bondage tape for the knot-challenge). This is traditionally a dude tying up a woman position, but you can flip it and make them watch as you touch yourself.

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The Ravished

Have them lie on their back spread-eagle, attaching each limb to a corner of the bed (Use handcuffs attached to the head and foot boards, bondage tape wrapped around the mattress corners or an under the bed restraint system.) Once helpless, torture them with some infuriatingly slow oral.

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This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.

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