Sex bucket lists are old fashioned, but so much fun. If you're anything like us, you won't be up for experimental sex every time, but sometimes you're up for doing something a little extra. When the mood takes you and you're feeling fancy, refer to this list of ideas.
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Get into a 69
The 69 sex position is an oldie but a goodie. A) it involves double oral sex, and B) anyone of any gender identity and sexuality can do it. What's not to love?! You get to be super close and intimate with your partner, and most importantly, it's fun!
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Give an erotic massage
If you've never massaged your partner, try these four sensual massages to intimately bond with your partner.
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Have sex in the shower
Shower sex can be all kinds of fun (and potentially dangerous because water), especially if you try out some of these sex positions.
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Take it outside
Don't worry, as long as no one sees you, having sex in public is totally legal. The thrill of doing something a bit naughty, and potentially getting caught, will just add to the general sexy vibe. ;)
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Play pretend
Role play can be really funny, but also really sexy. If you want to play around with the roles you usually take during sex, this is the perfect opportunity. Plus, dressing up is so fun!
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Wear kegel balls a la Fifty Shades
Remember that scene in Fifty Shades where Christian popped a metal ball into Ana's vagina before they went off to a masked ball? Yes, totally normal behavior. And you can try that, too. Kegel balls are worn internally and stimulate you gently as you walk around/go about your business. Plus, they're designed to train your pelvic floor muscles.
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Wear something a little extra
Erotic lingerie not only looks great from your partner's point of view, but it can make you feel sexy and confident!
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Use a couples sex toy
There are so many awesome sex toys for couples of all sexualities and gender identities.
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Join the Mile High Club
The Mile High Club is so damn fun to join, even 13 major celebs have spoken out about their in-air sexual experiences. Whether you risk getting caught doing your business under a blanket, or pop to the bathroom under the watchful eye of the cabin crew, it'll be one hell of a story to tell your pals.
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Watch porn together
Watching porn together can turn you on, but also give you ideas and awaken fantasies you never knew you had. It also opens a discussion between partners about what they might like to try! Make sure you choose ethical, feminist, legit porn where people are paid to act and the content isn't ripped by the tube site giants. Here's how to find good porn.
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Spank the right away
If you're interested in trying some light impact play, grab yourself a paddle and get spanking. Whether you are the spanker or the spankee (technical terms here people!), read our guide on how to spank safely and pleasurably first.
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Have sex in a swimming pool
Or a hot tub, or the sea, whatever you have access too, basically.
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Have a threesome
While some people's idea of hell is inviting someone else into the sacred bedroom, others say having a three way was the best sex of their lives. Just be sure to communicate openly and honestly beforehand (and during, and after) about your boundaries, limits, and desires.
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Try butt play
If you want to dip your toe (not literally!) into anal play for the first time but you aren't sure where to start, get yourself an anal sex toy for beginners and take it slow.
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Perfom the classic Rusty trombone
Simultaneous rimming and a hand job doesn't sound too easy, but it can be done. And for a penis-having partner, it can feel incredible (remember they have a G-spot in their butt, known as the P spot.)If you're worried about cleanliness or potential poop, you can use an anal douche before you get going. Or, get some flavored lube up in there.
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Go to a sex party
If you're interested in going to a sex party for the first time, know you can be as involved as you want to be. Whether you go with a partner and just have sex while other people watch, or actually have sex with other people you meet there, it's up to you.
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Strap into a harness and get pegging
Pegging—a reasonably new term that means when a woman or vagina-having person anally penetrates a male/penis-owning person with a strap on dildo—is becoming so much more popular. And it's not hard to see why (seriously, I tried it, it was hot)! If your partner's into it, start off small with an anal toy and work your way up to a full-on dildo as they become more comfortable. Whatever you do, use a fuck load of lube because the anus doesn't self-lubricate like the vagina.
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This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com/uk. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.