Sure, this year might not have started out as a super horny year, but with vaccines and masks and new ways to connect with each other (looking at you, Zoom sex parties), there's always something unique to try sex-wise, whether it's in-person or just virtually.
That's the great thing about sex: There are just about a billion things you can do to turn the heat up. And whether you're single or coupled up, one of the very first sex-related tasks you'll want to tackle is the creation of your very own sex bucket list.
Just like a normal bucket list, a sex bucket list is full of all the ~sexy~ things you want to try in your life. Fill your list up with whatever you want and tailor it to your own individual fantasies. Add new ideas as you think of them and keep an open mind as you discover new turn-ons.
But if you need a jumping-off point, here are over 110 suggestions for you to consider adding to your own sex bucket list. 10/10 recommend trying them all...
1. Experiment with different kinks.
Kinks are basically anything that arouses you, and there are tonnns of different ones out there. Maybe you like the feeling of latex against your skin? Or getting spanked? Or wearing heels in bed? Try some different kinky moves and ideas out.
2. Go to a nude beach.
Whether you strip down and get frisky or just soak up the, ahem, scenery, hitting up a nude beach is an experience you have to have at least once in your life (or more, if you enjoy it).
3. Have sex in a graveyard.
It's sexy! It's spooky! It's a fun reminder that life is short and orgasms are great! Just make sure to go when it's dark and remember, public sex *is* illegal, so do with that what you will.
4. Give a foot job.
It's like a hand job but done with your feet. Just make sure to give your piggies a wash before bestowing your partner with a foot job.
5. ...Get a foot job.
These boots aren't just made for walking, bb. You'd be surprised at all that can be accomplished when you incorporate both hands and feet into the lurve making.
6. Enjoy a round of sensual foot massages.
Okay, if foot jobs sound a lil too extreme, how about sensual foot massages? The feet have so many nerve endings, and some people actually orgasm from foot rubs alone, which means pedicures are about to become a lot more fun.
7. Film yourself having sex.
Ready to make a sex tape? Be sure to turn off your sharing, get enthusiastic consent from your partner (and decide what you'll do with the tape after), and start brainstorming names for your future reality show.
8. Film yourself masturbating.
If you don't have a partner or don't feel like recording your coupled-up sex, how about some solo clips? Watching yourself masturbate is not only v hot, but you might also pick up a tip or two from yourself, which is like masturbation inception in all the best ways.
9. Have sex on a pool table.
It's pretty much the most cliché thing you can do, but you gotta have sex on a pool table at least once to then never do it again.
10. Go to a virtual sex party.
Virtual sex parties are a great way to dip your toe into the idea of swinging and/or getting it on in public, and the best part is you don't even have to leave your couch or put on pants to attend.
11. Have sex on a boat.
Whether it's a cruise, a yacht, a sailboat, or a canoe, hook up on a boat to experience the ~motion of the ocean.~ Just be careful if you're prone to seasickness.
12. Masturbate using only Netflix shows.
If porn isn't your thing or you're too lazy to go searching for what you like, challenge yourself to get off using only Netflix shows. You'd be surprised what a few select scenes of The Vampire Diaries can do for your arousal.
13. Reenact your favorite TV sex scene.
14. Incorporate food in the bedroom.
Whipped cream, chocolate sauce, strawberries à la Serena van der Woodsen—there are a whole lotta foods you can incorporate during sex that'll not only turn things up but also ward off any hangry feels that might negatively impact the horny ones.
15. Find your favorite aphrodisiacs.
It turns out, there are more aphrodisiacs out there than just oysters. Have a feast to discover what foods get you going.
16. Have sex on the washing machine.
It's an on-screen classic for good reason. Whether you go at it with a partner or solo, you gotta find out firsthand why washing machine sex is so majorly hyped. Also, you get to multitask doing your laundry and getting off, which sounds like a pretty successful afternoon if you ask me.
17. Get a yoni massage.
18. Experiment with BDSM.
Try bondage, suggests Gabi Levy, a sexpert who also runs Shag Story. There’s nothing like being tied up, Levy adds. Obvi, talk it over with your partner first but if you’re both on board, go forth and bond (sorry).
19. See if CBD products amp up your sex life.
They’re everywhere now, so it’s worth a try. Levy says this can help you relax while you get it on, and be useful for getting out of your own head if that tends to be an issue for you during sex.
20. Play strip-poker.
This way, everyone wins, Levy says. There’s truly no such thing as losing with this. If you don’t know how to play poker, don’t worry, sub out poker for any other game—it’s just the “strip” part that makes it exciting anyway, ya feel?
21. Try to have a nipple-only orgasm.
They exist, says Levy—and here are some tips on how to have a nipple-induced orgasm. We gotchu, bb.
22. Rip the clothes off each other, literally.
The sex will be worth the ripped T-shirt, explains Levy. Just make sure it’s an item of clothing you won’t be too bummed to part with, natch.
23. Experiment with temperature play.
If you’ve got metal and glass toys, you can run them under cold water for added sensation. If you don’t, you can always play with ice, as Levy suggests. Run an ice cube over your partner’s erogenous zones and then have them do the same to you. You can blow on the skin too for extra oomph.
24. Get into wax play.
Get some special wax-play specific candles (yes, the distinction is important!), and start dripping the warm wax on your partner and vice-versa. It might be a little warm, but that’s part of the fun, explains Levy.
25. Try to ejaculate on your partner’s face.
If you’re someone who experiences vaginal ejaculation, try this on for a new power dynamic. And if you just can’t bring yourself to ejaculate (not everyone does or can), at least getting to orgasm is still a win, right?
26. Allow your partner to ejaculate on your face.
I mean, if you're into it...
27. Try working out together, but naked.
28. Try to go a week without sex, but do tease each other constantly the whole time.
Resist having sex with your partner for a week, all the while the both of you tease and try to turn each other on, suggests Prenter. The resulting pleasure from a week-long foreplay session will be sure to result in a v. memorable celebration at the end.
29. Lick every part of their body.
As in from head to toe, says Prenter. Take your time, tease them, and don’t stop when you get to their junk—like we said, head to toe is the assignment here.
30. Try edging.
This is something anyone of any gender can try to make your orgasms more explosive than ever, according to Sarrah Rose, sex educator at Tantric Activation.
31. Try to teach yourself how to pompoir.
Pompoir refers to the act of squeezing your vaginal muscles during sex for added stimulation. There are lots of ways to do this—Rose recommends using a jade egg to strengthen these muscles—but you can also do this without any fancy toys. Just squeeze!
32. Get a set of nipple clamps.
They might sound like A Lot, but the great thing about nip clamps is you can adjust the tightness so they’re like a light tug, as opposed to CLAMPING. The light intensity of a clamp can increase pleasure sensation, Rose explains.
33. Turn things up even hotter with orgasm denial.
Sounds counterintuitive, I know, but orgasm denial can actually be the hottest thing you introduce to your sex life. If you mastered the art of teasing your partner for a week without giving in, try letting yourselves be brought right to the brink of orgasm but not orgasming—for a week. Most people can’t last a day, according to Laurice, the founder of Stay Sexual. Good luck!
34. Order a sex toy you’ve never tried.
This advice is often given as an in-store thing, but TBH, I’m of the mindset that you’ll probably have a better experience doing so online. Any nervousness or self-consciousness about being in an IRL store goes out the window, and plus, you can read up and comparison shop so you’re getting a good toy.
Comparison shopping aside, it can still be a fun and spontaneous thing to do with your partner, Laurice says. And who knows, you might get turned onto a totally new kind of toy.
35. Try a tingling arousal gel on your clit.
“Liquid vibrator” sounds kinda too good to be true, but according to one of our writers, it delivers. “After a few minutes, you’ll be beyond aroused and jump your partner,” Laurice explains.
36. Buy a sex game.
THIS IS DIFFERENT THAN STRIP POKER LIKE ABOVE! See, by buying a game and waiting for it to be delivered, there’s a whole new layer of anticipation you can bring to the table. It’s like Christmas Eve, but for sex. And while strip poker works by making stripping something you can bet, a legit sex game straight-up tells you what to do, which brings a new level of excitement, according to Laurice.
37. Write your own erotic fanfic of you and your partner.
They say to write what you know, and what better way than by incorporating what you know about you and your partner’s current sex life and injecting a healthy amount of fantasy into the mix? “Surprise your partner with your story one night and watch them get turned on while reading it,” suggests Laurice. You can read it aloud or have them read it to themselves so you can watch their every reaction. Don’t worry about seeming silly, odds are they’ll be flattered and curious. P.S, if it becomes the next great Fifty Shades, I want a cut. Nothing absurd, but something reasonable like 10 percent.
38. Try a sex toy by yourself and report back to your partner about it.
Tell them exactly what you liked about it so they can try to recreate that for you going forward.
39. Have your partner try a sex toy by themselves, then report back to you.
Bonus: Have them try it out the second time in front of you.
40. Use sex toys together.
There are so many couples toys out there!
41. Try vibrating panties with your partner in public.
You know the idea of vibrating undies sounds sexy as hell.
42. Have a boudoir shoot for yourself.
Yes, you deserve to feel yourself, especially with professional hair, makeup, and lighting.
43. Role-play with your partner.
Sexy doctors on break, TV show characters, or strangers, the options are kinda endless.
44. Have a threesome.
45. Have your partner try being dominant to you.
Maybe being submissive is for you...
46. Try being dominant over your partner.
...Or maybe being the domme is what you’re good at.
47. Have super slow, tantric sex.
Draw everything out for extra-sensual sex.
48. Have a quickie.
As good as slow sex is, sometimes a quickie can be even hotter.
49. Try a finger up the butt.
It can be yours or your partner’s, but consider easing into anal.
50. Try a toy up the butt.
It’s called anal training, and it’s less intimidating than it sounds.
51. Try rimming.
Rimming or rim jobs or analingus is mouth-to-anus oral sex and it’s also less intimidating than it sounds.
52. Try penetrative anal sex.
Make sure you have lots of lube on hand read some anal tips first.
53. Peg your partner.
It can be pretty hot for you to be on the giving side too.
54. Have silent sex.
Even better if you’ve got super quiet toys involved.
55. Have super loud, moan-heavy sex.
Why hide? Lean into the noises.
56. Try dirty talk.
Dunno where to start? Check out these sexy conversation starters (or enders, if you get me).
57. Get real tender and gaze into each other’s eyes.
Up the intensity of your sex and see what happens.
58. Sext what you’re going to do to your partner while they’re at work.
Need some help? Check out these romance-novelist-approved sexting tips.
59. Ask your partner to sext you while you’re at work.
First, you want to make sure they're game with the idea, but if so, these sexting tips will inspire your sexy convo.
60. Ask your partner for nudes.
Obvi, please respect their privacy and don’t share (even if it’s a recycled nude)!
61. Send your partner nudes.
Hide your face/any identifiable background, and make sure to only send nudes to someone you trust!
62. Watch female-friendly, ethical porn with your partner.
Take some time to explore and figure out what porn you like first. Then take turns playing show and tell...
63. Take turns reading each other erotica.
There's plenty of erotica out there, no matter your preference. The world is your sexy oyster!
64. Make a sex music playlist.
It's basically a certified fact: Music makes sex better.
65. Have sex in another state.
Staycation, baby! Nothing better than heading to a B&B for the weekend, only to stay in the room the whole time!
66. Have sex in another country.
Get a lil exotic and get your passport stamped while you're checking off your bucket list items.
67. Have sex in another continent.
Do international orgasms hit the same? There's one way to find out, and it 100 percent starts with a trip to Paris.
68. Have sex in a car.
This is a pretty common fantasy for a reason: Car sex is about as hot as it gets.
69. Use lube.
Lube! It makes every single type of sex better. Try it now (if you haven’t, ofc) and thank me later.
70. Then try using some fancy lube.
By fancy, we mean non-drugstore variety and something that you put some research into picking.
71. Have sex that’s focused just on oral.
Too often, penetrative sex is seen as the definition of sex, but tbh, sometimes oral sex is just better!
72. Go to a sex party.
You don’t have to do anything, promise! But simply *attending* a sex party is a must. Even if you don't join in, you'll definitely find some inspo.
73. Take a sex workshop class together.
What’s the worst that can happen? You both get better at sex?
74. Take a fetish quiz together.
Or try an app version too! Whichever route you go, an intimacy quiz will shine a whole lotta light on your ~innermost desires. ~
75. Have sex in the shower.
Just make sure you’re not gonna slip and fall, puh-leeze!
76. Have sex in the bathtub.
More stability = more experimentation. There’s no shame in sitting, people!
77. Have sex in a (private) pool.
78. Have sex in a lake.
A lake is like a pool's less sexy cousin, but it's also where hot teens in basically every horror movie go to hookup, so you might as well check it off your list. Just don't go on Friday the 13th, okay?
79. Have sex in the ocean.
You might be surprised at just how helpful the waves can be when it comes to underwater sex.
80. Have sex by the ocean.
Sex on the beach isn't just a drink, people!
81. Have sex while you’re blindfolded.
Sensory deprivation can be seriously sexy.
82. Have sex while your partner is blindfolded.
And obvi your partner should get in on the fun too!
83. Try a remote-controlled long-distance sex toy that you can control via app while one of you is away.
Who says long-distance sex has to be boring?
84. Have phone sex.
There’s no need to feel awks, promise!
85. Have sex somewhere other than a bed.
Get wild with your location!
86. Have sex with someone of the gender you normally don’t have sex with.
If you’ve ever felt a lil curious, or just wanna try something new, considering hooking up with someone of a gender you don't normally gravitate toward. Who knows? Maybe you'll uncover a new side to your sexuality—you won’t know until you try.
87. Try a flavored lube.
Make oral sex even tastier with lube (if that’s even possible).
88. Try to orgasm at the same time as your partner.
This can make things seriously intense. If you're not sure how to make it happen, right this way for some tips to achieving a simultaneous orgasm...
89. Have your partner try to give you multiple orgasms.
Nothing like a challenge to up the ante.
90. Try 69-ing with your partner.
Some people love it. Some people hate it. The only way you're gonna find out which team you're on is to give it a try.
91. Try to give yourself multiple orgasms.
Learn how to play yourself like a damn fiddle.
92. Have sex standing up.
Nope, you don’t necessarily need insane leg power or superhero coordination to pull standing sex off.
93. Have sex on a couch.
You’re probs already sitting on one anyway. And besides, sex on the couch will def change up the vibe of your living room.
94. Have sex on a chair.
Yes, even your dining room chair can be used for sex.
95. Have sex on a sex swing.
This swinging is a lil different than the type you did in elementary school, but way more fun.
96. Have sex on the floor.
Ideally, you’ve got a fire going in the fireplace at the same time, but up to you.
97. Recreate your favorite movie sex scene.
Here’s a list of some controversially hot movie sex scenes to start.
98. Make sex last all day.
Tantra, but make it 24 hours.
99. Tease your partner all day without having sex.
No one will get mad if you break and jump each other’s bones only halfway through the day.
100. Have emotional sex.
It’s called a crygasm and it’s NORMAL.
101. Have breakup/goodbye sex.
Sometimes you just gotta.
102. Have make-up sex.
The best way to bookend a fight is with some steamy, "I'm so sorry" sex.
103. Have hate sex.
Again, sometimes, hate sex just happens.
104. Go down on your partner while they’re on an important phone call.
Career sabotage, but make it sexy.
105. Have your partner go down on you while you’re on an important phone call.
106. Have sex in your partner’s childhood home.
If you can even stay awake after Thanksgiving turkey for a hookup, that is.
107. Have sex in your childhood home.
Thankfully, holiday ham doesn’t make you quite as tired as turkey, so you won't fall into a stupor before getting off.
108. Try a sex challenge for the weekend.
You never know how it might go!
109. Have your partner eat sushi off your naked body.
Pull a Samantha Jones and just go for it.
110. Try to give your partner multiple orgasms.
Yes, you can and should return the favor.
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.