Early versions of couples toys were "one size fits all," which often meant “one size fits barely anyone." But today's next gen toys are flexible and adjust to fit more bodies. You wear them during sex–the idea is to thwart biology so you can have your P-in-V and an orgasm too, maybe even at the same time. Have at it!
The Test Run
It takes a little practice to get the hang of a couples vibe, so start with something easy like good ol' missionary. Assume the position and slide the internal part of the vibrator inside your vagina so it's pressing against the upper wall and push the other end of the toy against your clit. Your partner enters with the toy inside so they get a tighter fit and some reverb vibes. You might have to shift your body slightly a few times to hit ~just~ the right spot, but it. Is. Worth. It.
The Atomic Dog
If you get in doggie with a toy inserted, no one is on clit stim duty. Get even more stimulation by arching your back up, then down, like the Cat or Cow pose in yoga. Meow, I mean, woof.
The Over, Under, And Around
A vibrating double-headed vibrator leaves your hands free so you can pull your partner in for a kiss, rub your hands over their body or just hang the hell on. Try a super flexible toy to give you and your partner any combination of simultaneous clit and/or internal stim. If you're with a penis-haver, put one end on your clit and the other pressed to his frenulum or on his prostate.
The Rumble Seat
Insert toy, hop aboard and hand your partner the controls. You control how fast and deep you thrust, they control how much juice you get (they can control the vibrations from their iPhone). Will they be cruel or kind? You're just gonna have to find out for themselves. Bonus: this is also a great way to make blowjobs more fun for you–you can even turn it into a "whoever gets the other person to orgasm first, wins," if you both have a competitive side.
A strapless strap-on let you share the incredible vibes you're giving your partner. It's curved, so it stays inside you without you having to do mega Kegels.
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.