Being loud in bed is all kinds of fun, but it also has some stealth sex benefits!
- It’s the most direct way to let your partner know how things are going from your end of the deal—especially if you need them to make a few tweaks.
- It’s an immediate way to relax and let yourself get a little primal.
So here’s how to get the best aural bone-fest happening:
Speaking in Tongues
Make a no-talking rule and just try to convey what you want or are feeling via sounds only. An “Oh, fuuuuuuuck” is okay, but a “Put your left hand on my...” is definitely forbidden. If you can hit aural synchronicity, you two will almost be able to feel what each other is feeling via only growls, whispers, and random incoherent begging. Lie side by side so you really see those facial expressions—super intimate.
If being loud feels weird or kinda porn-y (ohyeahohyeahohyeah) but you still want to give it a try, start with phone sex. Make it audio-only, so your senses will be more attuned to each moan and sigh. (Plus, it’s waaay easier to be uninhibited from afar.) Start touching yourselves and talk or moan or...whatever. Don’t think about what noises you’re going to make—just let them sort of arise from what you’re feeling. Real, honest sounds of desire will turn you and your partner on even more.
The Coming Attraction
Harness the mysterious appeal of ASMR, if you’re into that. Slowly strip down, whispering softly in your partner’s ear what you’re going to do next. Do the same as you undress them, telling them how you are going to touch/kiss/lick them. Gently stroke their cheeks or lips too—hands touching the face also triggers the response. End on their lap for a slow face-to-face grind.
The Total Banger
If you’re worried someone might hear you, put a moan-hiding playlist on. What you play is gonna influence the kind of sex you have too, and timing thrusts to a particularly upbeat song can feel extra EPIC.
Expand the power of the hummer (making a humming sound while you’re giving a BJ or VJ) by making noise as you move your mouth over their lips, ears, chin, and neck. Build tension as you work your way down with a moan against their chest or an “mmm” sound against their inner thigh. End with the classic hummer for the grand finale.
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.