Sex can be completely anxiety-inducing for those of us who are shy, in our own head, or just feel nervous about being our most naked, primitive, O-face-making self in front of another person, especially someone we’re really, really into.
Luckily, you can still experience the fun of boning without having to fully open up right away if you’re just not there yet. (Of course, if you still don't feel ready, don't push yourself, especially if you feel pressured by a partner! Always listen to what you want to do).
The Blindfold Bang
Does being watched make you skittish? Put a blindfold on your partner–problem solved. This magically makes you feel braver to move and rub yourself exactly as you please. (The goal is to do this always, but baby steps can help sometimes).
The Banana Split
If you're not ready to freely and fully orgasm in front of another person, roll onto your belly so you can make any face you want, unobserved. Bonuses include deeper penetration and they can knead and/or smack your butt, improving said orgasm.
The Sex Scene
If everything's just a little off-kilter, awkward, or you keep bumping into each other: 1. Put on a sexy playlist, and make it loud. The music will sync you up and make everything seem a little more epic. 2. Bend over the side of the bed with your hands on the mattress, legs spread. Everyone has their place and there's little room for error.
The Rocking Spoon
The supreme comfort that is being the small spoon combined with a soothing rocking motion is ideal for calming your ass down. Have your partner hug you from behind, gently swaying with you as they rub you down. Trust, it's way more relaxing than you'd think.
The Backward Swoon
Being so turned on that you're beyond the point of giving AF does wonders for helping you lose your inhibitions. And a penis-and-toy combo is an excellent way to get to that state. With your hips up on their lap, it angles you for some extra intense orgasm action.
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.