If you've ever gotten into a fight with your boyfriend and years later, you swear he said one thing during the fight, and he swears he never said that, there's a reason why that is, Wall Street Journal reports.
According to Dr. Michael Ross, professor emeritus in the psychology department at the University of Waterloo in Ontario, Canada, who studies memory, you may be remembering something differently from your partner because you both understood the fight differently while it was happening.
Researchers found that men and women in general had the same memory capabilities, but noted that people tend to remember what they personally did, more than what their partner did. So you're less likely to remember what your partner specifically said, and more likely to remember things you said and felt during the fight.
They also added that if you think about one particular argument a lot, there's a good chance that each time you remember it, you're actually just remembering the most recent way you felt about it and not what happened at the time. Similarly, if the way you feel about your partner has changed between the fight and now, that can also change the way you remember things.
Andrew Christensen, a distinguished research professor in the psychology department of the University of California, Los Angeles, said couples should know there's no one true story about what really happened in a fight and even if you remember things differently, neither one of you is necessarily lying about what you think happened.
So basically, everyone chill because we're all wrong and the past is dead anyway. <3
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This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.