This Is How You Make Long-Distance Relationships Work

Stop overthinking.

Adjust, adjust, adjust.

There’s nothing wrong with expecting things from your partner, but it’s also important that you learn to understand the situation you two are in.

Being in a long distance relationship can be difficult and there will be days when you’ll have second thoughts if it’s even worth it—especially if Skype dates fall through or he breaks his promise of calling.

Don’t rely solely on technology.

Send postcards, flowers, or little presents—although talking to each other through messaging apps can be convenient, nothing beats a sweet, handwritten letter.

Associate Professor Ken Pugh, a cognitive neuroscientist at Yale says that "taking the time to reflect and make inferences and engage the imaginational processing is more cognitively enriching, without doubt, than the short little bits that you might get if you’re into the 30-second digital mode." In other words, handwritten letters can be seen as more sincere compared to emails and chatting online.

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Communicate well. 

Communication is probably one of the keys to a happy and lasting relationship. Make it a point to talk to your man, but be careful when scheduling Skype dates or phone calls—you don’t want to end up frustrated over promises neither of you can keep. 

Avoid jumping to conclusions.

While it’s true that you may not see what he’s been doing or meet the people he’s hanging out with, always remember to give him the benefit of the doubtstop overthinking! If he’s late for your weekly call or you hear another person’s voice while you two were talking on the phone, don’t (and we repeat), DO NOT jump to conclusions and trust your partner. 

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