One of the benefits of living in the digital age is that two people can (kind of) get it on whenever, wherever, through their phones or the internet. Sexting (sending suggestive photos, videos, and messages) is something that many couples choose to do, but researchers Rob Weisskirch, Michelle Drouin, and Rakel Delevi of California State University decided to take a closer look at why people sext and what it says about their relationships.
Specifically, the researchers were interested in learning how relationship anxiety factored into people's decision to sext their partner. Did it come from a place of comfort or fear? To get a better idea of their motives, they gave 459 unmarried, heterosexual, undergraduate students an online survey that measured their "sexting behaviors, relationship commitment needed to engage in sexting, their fear of being single, their dating anxiety and their attachment style (secure or insecure)."
It turns out, those in romantic relationships, no matter how long, were more likely to have sexted than those who said they were single (which, OK, duh). Furthermore, if someone had a fear of negative evaluation of their partner, but a secure attachment to them, then they were more likely to sext. Essentially, this means that people who were comfortable in their relationships felt comfortable being intimate via messages (even if they did still worry about their partner's reaction).
This goes against the researchers' original hypothesis, which guessed that sexting was driven by fear of losing the relationship, rather than what it actually seems to be: a symptom of a healthy and happy one.
Of course, people can choose not to sext and be perfectly content with their partner, but if you were worried that all your sexting was some kind of cry for relationship help, it isn't. If anything, it's further prove that you two are hot and in love, so sext away.
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.