Uh oh. You f*cked up. And your partner knows it, too. (Ouch!) All relationships go through ups and downs, and no matter if you’ve been together for three weeks, five months, or twelve years, you’re bound to fight with your bb at some point in time.
Even the most cosmically aligned unions have issues sometimes. Not to squash your “happily ever after” fantasy, but it’s just that—a fantasy. Real relationships require you to step up and find a way to move forward together—otherwise you’ll be moving forward on your own. So if you messed up, do something about it! Here’s our ultimate list about how to win back your bae, by their zodiac sign.
ARIES: LET THEM ERUPT, THEN GO ABOVE AND BEYOND TO SHOW THEM YOU’RE SORRY.
Aries have a temper. They’re ruled by Mars, the planet of war, after all. So when the going gets tough, they're about to start screaming. However, while Aries may be quick to anger, they tend to be quick to forgive, too! As much as an Aries can get pissed (especially when you hurt their ego), they are ultimately optimistic people. After they’ve stomped their feet and lit something on fire (kidding...kinda), they’ll likely shrug it off—as long as you pull out all the stops to show that you’re sorry. Just don’t make a big deal about their tantrum.
TAURUS: ADMIT THEY'RE RIGHT.
Tauruses never think they’re wrong, and they never change their mind. Because of this, trying to get them to see things from your perspective is kind of a lost cause, bb. Your fast track to moving forward after a fight is to plead guilty to your Taurus judge and jury. Let them feel confident and powerful. And while you should explain why you did that thing that you did, don’t fight the “sentence.” By letting them have the last word, you can leave this fight behind you.
GEMINI: TALK IT OUT.
Geminis can talk themselves into or out of any conflict. They have a masterful way of waging war with words. Because of this, your Gemini bb is going to want to discuss the sitch not once, not twice, but likely many times. They're prone to over-thinking everything and they change POVs like that. The symbol of Gemini is the Twins, so they're basically two people in one. Even when you feel all talked out, they're not—so keep talking. Eventually, they’ll get there. Also: Geminis love humor and tend to be lighthearted. If you can somehow point out a silver lining to your situation, do it.
CANCER: BE OPEN ABOUT YOUR FEELS.
Yikes. When you hurt a Cancer, prepare for allllll the feels to be involved. Cancers often process pain intensely and slowly—they aren’t going to get over anything anytime soon. While you can expect some passive aggression and guilt trips from your Cancer cutie, know that it's just because they’re afraid of being hurt again. The best way to get them to forgive you is to be open about how you feel. Apologize profusely and let them know how much you care. Help them remember why they love you in the first place. When you show your sentimental side, they’ll start feeling nostalgic about how things were before you, uh, did the thing. Don’t fake it, though. A Cancer will smell BS a mile away and retreat even further into their shell.
LEO: SHOW THEM YOU THINK THEY’RE ~THE BEST~.
Leos will never consider themselves #2. They put a great deal of energy into building up and maintaining their ego. But because a Leo puts so much work into their self-confidence, when something you’ve done puts a crack in it, their whole world can come tumbling down! Not only will they begin to doubt themselves, but they’ll question your relationship, too. The best way you can move forward after a fight is to reassure your Leo that they’re always #1 through big, bold gestures of your love—lots of them. After they once again feel like the star, your Leo S.O. will likely welcome you back up to the throne.
VIRGO: SELFLESSLY HELP THEM OUT.
Virgos are willing to give everything they have for their loved ones. So when they’re hurt by someone they love (cough, cough, that’s you), they take it especially hard. Virgos tend to hide their feelings behind an intellectual and logical demeanor, appearing calm on the outside but crying behind closed doors. Their first reaction will be to close you out and run away to unpack all their thoughts and emotions alone. It’s going to take hard work to pull them back in, because they’re going to want to know that you’re serious about changing for the better. You need to earn their forgiveness, and the more selfless, giving, and attentive you are, the quicker you'll make up. Make them coffee every morning, do their dishes, buy them flowers, whatever it takes! Just show them that you're putting in the work.
LIBRA: PUT YOUR RELATIONSHIP FIRST.
Libras are all about their relationship—and their boo. You’ve probably enjoyed them putting your needs first up until now, but as soon as your bae feels slighted, prepare to be sleeping on the couch. You were in, but you are sooo out now, bb, and your Libra will make sure you know it. To fast-track your way back into their heart, it’s time that you take the lead in putting the “US” at the top of your priority list. This means going out of your way to show you’re serious about them and your partnership. Plan date nights, remember your fifteen-month anniversary, buy matching heart necklaces like Ben Affleck and Ana de Armas. Show your Libra you’re still a team—and always will be.
Wait, you really thought you were going to cross a Scorpio and get out of this alive? Sorry, but Scorpios don’t really ~do~ forgiveness. As I'm sure you know, these feisty water signs understand power and know how to use it. When things were good (presumably before you f*cked up), you were on an equal playing field. But with each transgression (which they will wholeheartedly consider a personal attack against them), you will feel your power (and life) slip away. In order to smooth things out, you’re going to have to kill your ego, bow down, and grovel. There’s no way back to get back to the old days, so toughen up or leave.
SAGITTARIUS: APOLOGIZE ONCE, THEN LET THEM BLOW OFF SOME STEAM.
Lucky for you, Sagittariuses don’t really do the whole “feelings” thing. Endless hours of apologizing? They don't want to hear it. However, that doesn’t mean your Sag boo isn’t going to take your mistake seriously. Instead, the best way to get your Sag to forgive you is to be direct and to the point. Say you’re sorry. Explain that you regret it and won’t ever do it again, and tell them that you learned from the experience. Sagittariuses are no stranger to guilt, mess-ups, and do-overs, as they’re always racing impulsively into danger. Give them some space to process the sitch—and try not to hold it against them if they take the opportunity to get a free "oopsie" of their own. At the end of the day, your Sag will likely come bouncing back as long as you’re not trying to be so serious.
CAPRICORN: PROVE IT WAS A ONE-TIME MISTAKE.
Caps can be stern AF. And that’s before you messed up. This zodiac sign not only likes to think they’re always right (ahem, they're a cardinal sign), but they're also stubborn as hell (yeah, they're an earth sign, too). While they may look at your mistake as a sign of weakness (because Caps are tough, so why aren’t you?), you may be able to appeal to their good nature by having a heart-to-heart. Explain that it was a one-time mess-up and you will never repeat it again. Caps don’t care for explanations, excuses, or flowery words. The truth is you hurt them, so own up. Show that you can do better. And then do it.
AQUARIUS: ACKNOWLEDGE THEIR SUPERIORITY AND DON'T BE DEFENSIVE.
Aquarians don’t have time for BS (unless it’s their own)! If you’ve messed up and are crawling back to your Aqua-bae, be ready for the silent treatment. At first, their detachment may make it seem like they think you’re an insect, but really, they find your mistake insulting. Next, prepare for the tirade—and don't dare act defensive, or you'll enrage them even more. You see, Aquarius is a fixed sign, which makes them especially inflexible when it comes to ideas that aren't their own. If you acknowledge their intellectual and moral superiority and apologize wholeheartedly, they'll still distrust you, but eventually they'll let you back in. Just don’t rock the boat again. Ever.
PISCES: BE EMOTIONALLY VULNERABLE AND PROCESS THE PAIN TOGETHER.
Oh no. You hurt a Pisces?! Shame on you. Pisces are sooo sensitive and when they are hurt, they retreat and crumble. These soft souls can’t handle conflict and often run away rather than facing it. This could mean that your empathetic Pisces will hand out second (and third, and fourth) chances in order to keep the peace...or they may never let you in again. If you want to make amends, you have to come slowly, softly, and vulnerably before them. Show them that you’re hurting too—hurting because you hurt them. This way, you can work together to overcome the pain.
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com/uk. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.