On his 30th birthday (October 10), Rodjun Cruz proposed to his actress-host girlfriend Dianne Medina while they were in Boracay. With a decade's worth of life and love lessons shared with the Kapuso actor (Yes, they've been together for 10 years!), Dianne reveals their struggles and joys in an exclusive interview with PEP.ph.
It's normal to have your doubts about your future as a couple.
"As a woman, parang you're worried—mas lalo na that I'm not getting any younger. I'm 30 already, so parang nandun 'yung, 'Ano bang plano nito? May inaantay ba ako or kailangan ko ba mag-ultimatum sa kanya?' It's nice to know that he proposed and that he has plans. May direction din relationship namin."
Love is a choice and a commitment.
"Naging kami 19 years old lang, so imagine 'yung natali kami sa isa't-isa. We didn't get the chance to really explore other things like dating. Wala na talaga 'yun, cut na talaga."
It's totally okay to get jealous sometimes.
"May time 'nun, kalahati [noong relationship], feeling ko immature. First three years, selos ako. May selosan, may mali-link sa kanya. 'Yung usual problem ng relationship."
Have something that keeps you grounded.
"We always pray the rosary together. We always go to the adoration chapel to spend time with our Lord Jesus Christ. We make sure we have time for Him. We made sure that we center Christ in our relationship. He's our foundation."
Be supportive of your partner's career.
"As a partner dapat supportive ka. Happy ako kasi supportive kami of each other, most especially sa career. Kung kailangan gawin ito, go lang. Never ako nag-bawal sa kanya. As in, supportive talaga ako sa work."
You don't need to ask for permission to do something!
"We make sure na may kanya-kanya kaming buhay. Kung aalis siya, hindi niya kailangan magpaalam. He can just say it. Hindi kami naga-ask [for] permission. [We] never check each other's phones."
Work through your issues together.
"Hindi namin sinasakal isa't-isa kasi nangyari na sa amin 'yun, eh. Nagsakalan to the point na naging toxic. So ang dami namin natutunan all throughout the relationship, and we could say it's really worth it."
Have a mantra.
"Mantra nga namin ni Rodjun is you have to find the right person who would deserve [your love] kasi wala namang assurance [this will last]. Kung lilipat ka sa ibang relationship, mahu-hurt ka rin naman, eh. So you just have to find that right person na deserve kang saktan paulit-ulit kasi siya 'yung napili mo. Medyo martir 'yung mantra, 'yung motto namin, pero 'yun."
"Siya [Rodjun] 'yung napili kong deserving of my love and 'yung love niya for me. Kahit saktan niya ako paulit-ulit, lagi kong iniisip lahat ng mistakes ni Rodjun sa past. I love him more than his mistakes. More than sa hindi maganda. And lagi namin iniisip na 'yung greater lagi 'yung love kaysa 'dun sa mga bad times."
You just gotta get through the seven-year itch.
"I can say ah, hanggang seven years 'yung talagang mahirap. After 'nung seventh year, parang sobrang smooth sailing. Happy lagi. Secured na sa relationship. Nag-mature na kaming pareho."
[h/t: PEP.ph / Interview: FM Ganal]