1. Being called man-haters.
Feminism is defined as “the belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities,” and that’s what we’re all for. So no, we don’t hate men; neither are we automatically lesbians because we identify as feminists. Research pa more, pare ko.
2. Pressure to submit to traditional gender expectations.
“You should be married and have kids by now,” “You should stay home with the kids,” “You should have kids, period”—these life choices are all well and good for the women who freely choose them, but why should other women be judged if they want to take a different route? Nobody’s making a big deal over men who are focused on their careers and still sowing their wild oats at 40.
3. When men get paid more than women for the same work.
J-Law expressed the exasperation of women everywhere in her 2015 essay about the significant pay gap between her and her male co-stars in American Hustle. “I’m over trying to find the ‘adorable’ way to state my opinion and still be likable!” She wrote. “Fuck that. I don’t think I’ve ever worked for a man in charge who spent time contemplating what angle he should use to have his voice heard. It’s just heard.” Preach, sister.
4. Being told women can't do something by virtue of their gender.
Can’t hold positions of power, can't make the first move, can’t brave the outdoors, can't park a car, can’t keep it together through a Nicholas Sparks movie—these are just some of the things that we hear on the regs, which we—surprise!—actually CAN do.
5. Being told we’re “too ___” for a girl.
Too smart, too kengkoy, too loud, too ambitious, too wild, too aggressive, too bold, too opinionated…the list goes on. Not all women are Maria Clara types content on hiding behind their abanikos; we’re built with vastly different personalities and temperaments. Deal with it.
6. When women are judged by or reduced to their appearance.
This is precisely the impetus behind campaigns such as #AskHerMore, which demands of awards show reporters to ask female stars on the red carpet other things besides questions about their appearance.
7. Catcalling, unwanted ogling, or any form of street harassment.
Men who engage in these acts may think they’re serving us a compliment, but that’s not how we see it. Not only does it make us second-guess the outfit we so confidently chose for ourselves this morning, such leering attention makes us feel uncomfortable and unsafe.
8. When people justify rape.
OH HELL NAW. A woman could be drunk and passed out at a party or walking down the street in a bikini, and unless she actually gives a man sexual consent, she is not “asking for it.”
9. When other people get in the way of our reproductive health decisions.
This is why the passing of the Reproductive Health (RH) Law in 2012 was so groundbreaking for Pinays. Not only did it make methods on contraception, fertility control, sex education, and maternal care more available to women nationwide, it also drove home the point that we own our bodies and we should be allowed to make health decisions we believe are right for us.
10. When people say that feminism isn't necessary in this day and age.
Yes, women can vote, our country has had two female presidents, and your boss is female and she makes a hell of a lot more than you. But how about domestic violence? Sexual assault? Rape? These crimes against women are still as rampant as ever—with about 35% of women worldwide having experienced either physical or sexual violence, according to a UN Women report—which means that something still needs to be changed in how women are viewed.
11. Hearing about the plight of women in other countries.
The same UN Women report reveals that 92% of women in New Delhi have experienced sexual violence in public spaces, that more than 700 million women alive today worldwide were married before they were 18, and that at least 200 million women and girls alive today have been subjected to female genital cutting in 30 countries. This makes us angry. Very angry.
12. When people who clearly believe in the ideals of feminism refuse to identify as feminists.
Even strong, successful women—looking at you, Shailene Woodley—shy away from calling themselves feminists simply because they don’t understand the term, which has been associated with man-hating for so long. In fact, in a 2013 US poll published by the Huffington Post, only 20% of respondents identified as feminists even though, when asked if they believe that “men and women should be social, political, and economic equals,” 82% said yes. Once you realize that feminism simply calls on equality for both sexes, doesn’t it sound like something anyone can get behind?
13. Being laughed at or told to "relax lang" when we get in a rant about feminism.
We will not “relax lang,” dammit. These things should be discussed, precisely because not enough people are talking about it—and their discomfort at the subject just proves our point.
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