1. Go out for a delicious, fancy meal by yourself and feel content enough in your own company.
Take a book, read magazines, drink all the wine if you want to, because you are an independent woman picking up the bill after herself.
2. Go on an all-girls holiday.
It might feel like you're stretching your bank account beyond the end of the earth, but rounding up your girlfriends and jumping on a plane is something you're never going to look back on and regret. Sacrifice one pair of shoes and a night out a month in aid of a flight to somewhere sunny with the people you love the most.
3. Have a one night stand.
Listen, providing you tick all the right boxes (text a friend where you are, use a condom, have enough cash for a cab, etc. etc.), one night stands can be AMAZING. Reminding yourself how much sexual prowess you have and what a goddess you are in that department with no strings attached can never be a bad thing, surely?
4. Binge-watch guilty pleasure TV.
Yes, yes boys might be nice to watch horror films under the covers with, but who else is really going to appreciate Seth Cohen and Ryan Atwood in The OC like you? NO ONE, so binge-watch it by yourself without an inch of guilt.
5. Appreciate your independence
We're not saying being single isn't lonely sometimes, but it gives you an opportunity to be free of A LOT of the baggage that comes with a relationship. Eventually you'll spend the majority of your life worrying about other people—your future boyfriend/husband/children—so spend this time really appreciating your own time and space.
6. Date as many people as you want, because guess what?
Dating is GREAT! Find out what you actually like rather than what people think you should like. Go for ~that~ guy in your barkada, or the man who works across the road from you. If it doesn't go well, you've lost nothing, and if it does? You've gained everything. Every date counts as an experience towards finding the right guy!
7. But don't settle for shit men.
There is nothing to be gained from surrounding yourself with toxic people and their negative nature. Considering you probably feel like life is busy enough as it is, now's the time to wave goodbye to time wasters and shit men, because it will revolutionize your life to NO. END.
You're in your twenties and you're single: the world is literally screaming at you to go and do some traveling. Eat chocolate cake in Paris, taste wine in Peru or see the beaches in Bali: whack some savings in an account for a while and just DO IT, no strings attached. When people ask if you're going to "find yourself," tell 'em you've already found the best version of yourself and she's sitting in a hammock on the beach.
9. Be a YES person.
If we haven't hammered it home enough, you're mature and independent and living an autonomous life, what's the harm in saying yes to things? YES to the guy from IT who keeping asking you on a date, YES to that weekend trip to Anilao with your parents even though you don't really want to go and YES to that Krispy Kreme donut staring at you.
10. Spend time with your family and friends.
As your parents get older and your friends' lives get busier, make the effort to spend time with them and visit various places because you are in an easy position to do so. It's important to keep old ties, because those are the people that are always going to support you in the long run.
11. Cut the relationship clutter.
If you're prone to feeling nostalgic about your college days and still keep pictures of your first boyfriend in a folder for "the memories," it might be time to cut the clutter and chuck out anything that might be holding you back. The relationship ended for a reason and the time to make way for the future over the past is now.
12. Ditch your emotional barriers.
Lots of people find it hard to "let their guard down" because of being hurt in the past, and while it's 1000% easier said than done, ditching your emotional barriers and opening yourself up to people again is LIBERATING. Yes, giving someone a chance could end up in hurting you again, but it could also end in something wonderful.
13. Treat yourself.
We've said it before and we'll say it again: it's not down to men to make you feel special, so don't rely on your relationship status to dictate your happiness. Treat yourself because YOU deserve it, not because you think it's what a boyfriend would be doing. Buy the handbag if you feel like it, because you deserve it.
14. Learn to cook.
Don't learn for anyone else, learn for YOU. You'd be surprised how bloody satisfying it is to be able to whip up a full on delicious meal at the drop of a hat, and to know what's actually going into your food once in a while. Grab a cook book, crack out the eggs and watch your cooking ability come to life—even if it is just an omelette with chocolate brownies to follow.
It's not a dirty word and is something every—single or not—twentysomething should feel comfortable (literally) doing. If you don't know what you like or what you find pleasurable, how the hell do you expect someone else to? Here's everything you should know, and here's some tips to help you out. And some more. A couple more.
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.co.uk. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.