Party season is in full swing. In other words, it's that time of the year when you drag your boyfriend (or soon-to-be BF) to reunions. If your guy is making you feel uncomfortable about it, here are reasons why you shouldn't be:
1. It's your way of telling your guy "You're important to me."
Truth: Not every guy who comes into your life gets an invite. The fact that he's managed to score one is a sign that he's playing his cards right. In fact, he might as well consider it an ego stroke. You're basically telling him "Hey, I'd like to keep you," and that means having him around and having his presence immortalized through the photos that'll be taken. Tell your guy to bear the small talk, to join in the silly games, and be open to having some fun. Pogi points from the clan will get him far, and this is his chance to score some.
2. You want to prove something to your family and friends.
Before he came along, reunions were the kind of gathering that ushered in less-than-desirable situations, like dodging the questions of a doting tita who has been extra keen on setting you up with someone, or feeling out of place at the dinner table while your girl friends sat next to their SOs. Talk of boyfriends, especially the lack of one, has always been hard to escape at these parties. Now that he's in the picture, seize the opportunity to show up with him. Besides, this is now your chance to enjoy these parties with people you care about: family, friends, and the boyfriend. With him by your side, you're excited to have an even better time.
3. You want to show him off.
You want to introduce him to everyone, and that's not just because it's the polite thing to do. It's your guilty pleasure to parade a hot guy around, and having your closest friends and relatives agree with your taste in men is one of the most enjoyable things about bringing someone along. Plus, nothing makes you more kilig than having your family and friends tell you "Bagay kayo!"
4. He's your wingman at parties you don't really want to be in.
Some parties are a bore and a pain to go to, especially if it's one of those you'd rather skip but can't. Honestly, you love having him around to spice up occasions that would otherwise be a snoozefest, like dinner parties with relatives you're not close to. Christmas gatherings where you hardly know anybody isn't your thing either, so you need your partner-in-crime to make things a little less excruciating. Besides, having him there saves you from making small talk all night. The fact that you guys are in this together makes you both feel a lot better about it already.
5. You want to see how well he'll blend into your world.
It's totally a turn-on to see your guy get on the good side of your friends and family. This is the best way for you to gauge how well he'll get along with the people who matter to you. You'll see if he's impolite, and if he really is rude it's time for you to sit him down and confront him and help him have better communication and PR skills. (Unless the damage was done and you just can't be with someone disrespectful.)
This story originally appeared in Cosmopolitan magazine, December 2012.
* Minor edits have been made by Cosmo.ph editors