There are days when we have to face major decisions that'll shape our lives. At some point, we have to make a choice that will affect our schedule, routine, and potentially, our future.
So before you fall into the trap of negative self-talk and convince yourself to stay in a job you no longer vibe with, take a moment to pause. Instead of talking yourself out of resigning, it might be time to ask yourself the right questions: why do you want to leave, and is now the right time to hand in that resignation letter?
Darrel Cabarrubias, a Certified Human Resource Professional (CHRP) and author of the career newsletter Thoughts Digest, shared in an interview with Cosmopolitan Philippines that there is no right or wrong when it comes to the reasons for resigning. He emphasized that the decision to resign lies entirely with you—not with your boss, your friends, or the societal (or familial) pressures you're confronted with.
Trish Ramirez, a Certified Human Resource Professional (CHRP) and founder of career podcast Ask Trishy, echoed similar sentiments, stating that resigning from a job is often influenced by a variety of factors—both personal and professional. She emphasized that these factors shouldn't be ignored, but rather carefully evaluated and reflected upon, as the decision to resign could potentially lead to better growth and overall wellbeing.
GUIDE: What You Should Do Before Submitting Your Resignation
1. Assess your situation first.
Resignation does happen, and it is inevitable. But is this the time to do it? According to Trish, identifying whether your current job or company is the right fit "involves assessing both your work environment and your overall job satisfaction."
Trish said that while reasons do vary, here are major indicators that signify it is time to move on:
- Burnout: Feeling tired from work is normal. But sleep disturbances, anxiety, or a weakened immune system are a significant "red flag" and "a strong indication that the job's demands may no longer be sustainable."
- Misalignment of Core Values: Feeling valued is essential in the workplace. Trish emphasized the importance of reflecting on how well you fit within the company’s culture, as a misalignment can lead to discomfort and dissatisfaction. Darrel echoed this sentiment, stating, "early signs that a company may no longer be the right fit for you include feeling the need to drag yourself to work every day."
- Lack of Growth: If there are no opportunities for training, promotions, salary increases, or constructive feedback, it’s likely that your potential isn’t being fully recognized or supported. Without growth, both professionally and personally, staying in the role can feel limiting, making it difficult to progress in your career.
2. The ball is in your hands (so ignore the social pressure).
Now that you have assessed your situation, the decision to resign lies entirely with you. Darrel emphasizes that it’s your job and your responsibility, asserting that all reasons for resigning are valid.
"In today’s world, gone are the days when people needed to justify their decision to leave a job with specific 'acceptable' reasons. Whether it’s wanting more family time, dissatisfaction with pay, or feeling unfulfilled, these are all valid reasons to make a change. Your decision to resign is personal, and no one has the right to question it," he said.
Similarly, Trish highlights various factors that can influence this decision, such as a toxic work environment, misalignment with company values due to changes in management, and inadequate compensation. She underscores the importance of seeking a work atmosphere that supports both your professional and personal growth.
"To effectively manage these emotions, start by understanding your 'why.' Knowing the deeper reasons behind your desire for a career shift will give you clarity and confidence, helping you quiet external voices. Ask yourself questions like, 'What motivates me to switch careers?,' 'What am I passionate about?,' and 'How will this shift improve my life?,'" Trish suggested.
3. Planning and brainstorming are key.
Planning and brainstorming what to do after deciding to resign is crucial for a smooth transition process, as highlighted by both Darrel and Trish. Darrel emphasized the importance of focusing on aspects you can control, such as enhancing your skill set through free courses, or seeking volunteer opportunities within your team to gain valuable experience.
"If your concern is networking, consider reconnecting with a former boss or teacher over coffee. There are always aspects of your career that are within your control. By focusing on those, you’ll be better equipped to manage stress and navigate the transition with more confidence," Darrel stressed.
On the other hand, Trish underscored that resignation is just the first step; having a clear strategy for what comes next is essential. This includes financial preparation and having a safety net.
"Review your emergency savings to ensure you can cover at least three to six months of living expenses. This safety net is vital in case of any unexpected delays or changes in plans," Trish suggested.
Trish also highlighted the need for open communication with your family about your decision, as their support can be invaluable during this transition.
4. Take that leap of faith.
In Filipino culture, it is typical to want to avoid confrontation, even when faced with significant decisions like switching careers. As people-pleasers, we sometimes feel the need to sugarcoat things when talking to our boss or colleagues, even if deep down we know that leaving is the right step for our career growth. But the good thing is, there is no right or wrong way to leave your company. However, it *is* necessary to leave the company on good terms.
According to Darrel, there are a few other things you should add to your to-do checklist AFTER submitting your resignation.
GUIDE: What To Do After Submitting Your Resignation
1. Set a meeting with your supervisor and your team.
"First, communicate with your team and supervisor. Open dialogue ensures a smooth transition and proper separation from the company. Second, send your resignation via email, with HR copied. This creates a formal record and confirms your last working day," Darrel discussed.
2. Manage your transition period.
Darrel and Trish said that managing and helping with the transition period is an act of good faith, and is a big responsibility on your part as an outgoing employee.
"Do your part by preparing handover files, training teammates, and ensuring your responsibilities are passed on. This leaves a positive impression and maintains your professional network," Darrel said.
"Offer to help with training your replacement, documenting workflows, or completing ongoing projects. Inform colleagues and clients as appropriate… Keep all communications professional and maintain a positive tone throughout," Trish added.
3. Follow up with your final pay (and additional things you're entitled to).
Darrel noted that you should check if you have unused leaves, or any outstanding payments to the company, during your required notice period. Knowing your rights (and how much you are owed) helps protect you from any potential issues.