Having seen a lot of soap operas and movies about cheating, it's easy to feel like you've got it all figured out. A guy who is unhappy in his relationship is bound to stray. He’ll go to a bar and hit on the first girl who catches his eye. He’ll get drunk and then sleep with her, not knowing how much he’ll hurt his girlfriend or wife in the process. All these points seem logical, and yet according to experts, they’re not really the standard for cheating men—at least, not for those whose first names aren’t Sergio, Claudio, or Fernando. Curious to know what real-life men think about when they do cheat? Read on!
They’re usually happy in their marriages.
That’s right, ladies. Men who cheat are not exactly dissatisfied with their relationships. In fact, according to a Rutgers University study, 56 percent of guys who claim they cheated are actually pretty content. So why do they even cheat in the first place? (P.S. Female Network's GIRLTalkers draw their personal conclusions here.)
They have a higher sex drive after the affair.
After their first foray into the seedy world of extra-marital affairs, men become friskier in bed, so if your partner suddenly starts initiating sex more than usual for no apparent reason, be on the lookout. According to Redbook, this is a red flag. His libido is on a high, but since you’re still the one he feels most at comfortable with bedroom-wise, he'll want to have more sex with you. Until, of course, the affair becomes more solid, after which, he'll be more withdrawn.
Women cheat, too.
Men are usually portrayed as lying, cheating scoundrels, but women are just as capable of being unfaithful, too. However, while men are more inclined to seek sex, women are more likely to cheat and develop feelings for the third party. This is probably even more harmful to the relationship because women who fall in love may end up choosing to leave their partners for good.
Unfaithful men are not always looking for an out.
In his book The Monogamy Gap: Men, Love, and the Reality of Cheating, American sociologist Eric Anderson reveals that 78 percent of the committed men in his study cheated, "even though they said that they loved and intended to stay with their partner."
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