These 23 Blow Job Positions Make Giving Head Way More Enjoyable

A truly amazing blow job isn’t about the perfect technique. It’s about being curious about your partner and what, specifically, works for them. If you’re watching closely, noticing what makes them swell and moan, you’re already on the right track. These blow job sex positions offer 23 options to go from there, with an emphasis on pleasing a penis, but also, maximizing your pleasure too.

“Blow jobs are popular for good reason. Many folks enjoy giving and receiving them for perks like intimate connection and intense, often orgasmic pleasure,” says author August McLaughlin, host of the Girl Boner podcast.

To help with the orgasmic pleasure part, these positions include clit-friendly tips like optimal vibrator placement, grinding opportunities, and ways to angle yourselves for mutual pleasure. If a position isn’t quite doing it for you, adjust it to your liking. “Figure out what you most enjoy, and make sure you’re getting that,” says resident sexologist for Fleshy Suzannah Weiss, author of Subjectified: Becoming a Sexual Subject.

And if there any parts of giving a blow job that you don’t love, you simply...don’t have to do ‘em! Don’t like swallowing? “Cover the head of the penis with your hand as they ejaculate to redirect the flow,” says sex and couples’ therapist Sara Sloan, LMFT, CST, owner of Austin Concierge Therapy. (For more ideas, see #13—Duck and Cover.) Working with an XL penis, or want to deep throat but have a sensitive gag reflex? Use your hands as an extension of your mouth and turn your head so that the head of their peen is pressing against the inside of your cheek, for a gag-free version. (And see #8—The Sweet 16.)

When you’re ready to give (or get) the best BJ ever, here are the positions our experts recommend.

How to Do It: “One partner sits on a chair, bed, or sofa. The other partner turns upside down, placing their crotch in the seated person’s face for easy access, and their hands on the furniture for stability. Think of it like a 69-style, seated hug,” says McLaughlin.

Pros: “While this position takes some physical strength and balance, it can provide a sense of fun and novelty if you’re used to more basic, lying down sex positions. The mutual oral stimulation is a bonus,” she says.

Cons: This is, in fact, very tricky. A wide sturdy chair with large arm rests can help, but if you can't quite nail this one, totally fine to skip or move on to the next thing.

Switch It Up: Add bonus stimulation with a finger vibe.

Make It Hotter: Try echoing each other’s mouth motions—they flick their tongue, you flick your tongue. They suck your clit, you suck their head.

How to Do It: Sit or kneel on the tub floor while your partner stands. “The standing partner massages the giver’s head, or even washes their hair while they work their blow job magic,” says McLaughlin.

Pros: Free scalp massage? Yes please.

Cons: There's a very high possibility that the giver gets water in their eyes. If that's you, avoid this by turning your head away from the spray and tilting it up.

Switch It Up: “You may want to try this position during period sex, both for mood perks and because the water can wash the blood away,” she says.

Make It Hotter: Bring a waterproof, multi-purpose vibrator in with you that you can use on your partner or yourself, internally or externally, or all of the above.

How to Do It: Your partner lies flat between a bed and a chair or ottoman of a similar height so they’re suspended between, suggests McLaughlin. Sit on the floor under them to suck on them.

Pros: “This creative sex position can provide a fun change of pace. It’s a bit like making a fort when you were a kid, only the spicy, adult version,” she says. “If you’re in a sex rut or just feeling especially playful, this position may be your best bet.”

Cons: If you’re prone to neck pain, this could be a literal pain. You could also get the same effect but easier (for the giver, at least) by lying under your partner sideways while they do a plank.

Switch It Up: Sit on top of a sex toy before getting busy with your mouth, she says. A thrusting vibrator pairs well here.

Make It Hotter: Use this as an entry position to get you engaged and connected, then switch to something more sustainable.

How to Do It: “Your partner sits in a chair with their legs a bit spread, and you kneel between their legs underneath the chair as if you’re worshipping them,” says Weiss.

Pros: Great for cock worship, a common kink wherein the worshipper is obsessed with and in awe of their partner’s penis—receiving it in every way and indulging in their cum, explains Weiss.

Cons: Worshiping a peen might not be everyone’s jam. If so, this works as a plain old non-worshiping BJ, too.

Switch It Up: If you want an extra spectacular grand finale, get a penis stroker attachment that fits over a wand vibrator.

Make It Hotter: After you’ve done your cock-worshipping, hand your partner the wand and they can do some worshipping in return.

How to Do It: If you have access to a private pool, have your partner sit on the ledge while you stand in the water between their legs.

Pros: Changing venues is a quick and easy way to shake things up.

Cons: You need to pick a safe venue. “Make sure you aren't someplace where you can get caught; doing this in public (especially around kids) could have legal consequences!” says Weiss.

Switch It Up: Get your hands involved with a silicone lube that won’t rinse off in the water.

Make It Hotter: Angle your vulva in front of a water jet and experience the joy of sex with water.

How to Do It: The Kivin Method is a sideways position for cunnilingus, but it can be a blow job position too, says Weiss. Have you partner sit or lie back on a bed. Kneel at your partner’s side (as opposed to head-on) and you’re good to go.

Pros: “This creates a slightly different angle and sensation since you're a bit higher up than you'd be if you were between your partner's legs. Your hands are also a bit freer to touch other parts of their body,” says Weiss.

Cons: There’s not a lot of eye contact. If you need more, just use your hand for a few strokes so you can turn and look at your partner.

Switch It Up: Use your free hand to cup or play with their balls!

Make It Hotter: If you want to sit on a vibrator, go right ahead. Try a grinder-style toy.

How to Do It: Try an in-shower BJ. Kneel so that the water is not hitting your face while your partner stands. If you have a shower bench, put it to good use to provide some easy, hands-free action, says Sloan.

Pros: Warm and intimate, plus easy clean up!

Cons: The decision of who gets the optimal spot under the shower spray....consider it a chance to work on mutual problem solving!

Switch It Up: “You can also allow the water to enter your mouth, providing additional sensations,” says Sloan.

Make It Hotter: “If you have a waterproof toy or a removable shower wand, this position also allows you a hand to simultaneously take care of yourself,” she says.

How to Do It: Your partner lies down flat. Straddle your partner’s chest, facing their feet. Bend down to get them in your mouth for an upside-down BJ.

Pros: “The sweet 16 is an easy position that works well for anyone with anxiety around giving a blow job,” says Sloan. “With your back to your partner’s face, it blocks the view, preventing the receiver from seeing what the giver is doing." This is especially helpful if you're shy about being watched.

Cons: No eye contact. Stay connected with your partner with some dirty talk, words of love, or sexy questions like “Do you like when I do this?”

Switch It Up: Slide your hips back toward your partner’s face if you require some oral sex yourself (rimming works too).

Make It Hotter: “It allows you to have both hands free, which is especially helpful for anyone working with a larger penis,” she says. Give a XL-sized partner the feeling of being fully enveloped by lubing up your hands and using them as an extension of your mouth.

How to Do It: Lie on your side at the edge of the bed with your head turned toward your partner. Your partner stands next to the bed to receive their BJ. “You can use one hand to hold and direct the penis into your mouth, while controlling the thrusting movement by holding onto your partner’s behind with your other hand,” says Sloan.

Pros: “This is a relaxed way to give a blow job without the giver ever having to get out of bed,” she says. “It’s ideal for lazy Sunday mornings or for anyone with limited mobility.”

Cons: The mouth-to-penis ratio might not ~quite~ work. You can elevate your head with a pillow or two and/or your partner can squat down a little.

Switch It Up: For a different angle, or if their penis isn’t at mouth level, your partner can put their hands behind you on the bed and lean over you.

Make It Hotter: If you want to be even lazier—yes, it can be done!—have your partner do the thrusting. Fire up a rabbit toy and revel in your ingenuity.

How to Do It: If your partner is into it, incorporate the P-spot. Once they are well aroused, slowly slide a very lubed up finger into their bum. You can use your finger to gently tap or stroke the upper wall of the anus as you suck on their penis.

Pros: Prostate stimulation can give deeper, stronger, more intense orgasms.

Cons: Fingering up the butt can be a turn-off to some people. A pair of medical gloves can help with that (and add a layer of kink). Medical role-play, anyone?

Switch It Up: If your partner isn't quite ready for the full finger, try pressing on their perineum (the spot between their balls and butthole) as they get close to and go through an orgasm.

Make It Hotter: If they want more stimulation, try a vibrating prostate toy.

How to Do It: Put your legs over the back of a sturdy sofa or loveseat and hang your head over the front edge while your partner kneels in front of the sofa.

Pros: “This position is such a winner because it aligns the direction of the giver’s throat with the direction of the erection,” says Victoria Thomas, former columnist for Cosmopolitan Bedside Astrologer.

Cons: Hanging your head upside down can be uncomfortable. Try it for a bit and if it’s not working, move on to something else.

Switch It Up: Although plenty of penises curve upward, lots curve in other directions. Try some of these positions designed for a curved penis.

Make It Hotter: "It’s very easy to deep throat in this position,” she says. If it’s your first time, try relaxing your throat and taking in your partner slowly. Agree on a hand gesture beforehand if it gets to be too much.

How to Do It: “While your partner lies on their back, stand beside the bed with your legs hips-width apart and bend over to take them in your mouth. Maximize the power dynamic by keeping your clothes on while they lie in front of you naked and vulnerable,” says Riccio.

Pros: For aspiring Dominants, this position is all about control, she says.

Cons: You can’t just bust out the Domming. This will require a pre-sex conversation about boundaries, safe words, and expectations.

Switch It Up: “Variations include tying your partner to the headboard, gagging them, tickling their feet, or placing a firm hand over their face while you blow their junk and mind,” she says.

Make It Hotter: “This is an ideal time to break out your panty vibe, allowing your partner to operate the remote only when they've been very, very good,” she says.

How to Do It: If you don’t like cum in your mouth, this position will help you redirect the flow. Have your partner lie on their back while your straddle their legs or kneel between them. Keep the communication going throughout (watch their body, listen to their breathing, etc...) to make sure their Life Force goes where you want it to go.

Pros: It’s cum-free and there are no decisions about swallowing.

Cons: You might still end up with cum in your mouth. If you really really hate it, spit it out tactfully or have a glass of water nearby so you can down it like a shot.

Switch It Up: A wearable vibrator can put this position over the top for the person giving the BJ.

Make It Hotter: Instead of focusing on what you don’t want (mouthful o’ cum), shift the focus to something you do want by saying something like, “I want you to cum on my...” whatever—boobs, stomach, left elbow, etc...

How to Do It: Lie on your back. Your partner straddles your face to basically give themselves a blow job by thrusting into your mouth. You’ll have your hands free to masturbate or use a toy.

Pros: This works best in more hard-core, power exchange situations—with very clear consent along the way.

Cons: This can feel a bit intense if you're not used to submitting, and no worries, it's not for everyone! Try curling your hand around their shaft as a buffer to control how deep they go.

Switch It Up: Change the power dynamics by using your hand as a buffer, then making your partner beg for a little more.

Make It Hotter: A thrusting toy is great here 'cause it mirrors what's going on with your mouth.

How to Do It: Sit back, leaning against a stack of pillows or the bed frame. Your partner straddles your body, sliding their penis or strap-on into your mouth.

Pros: Your mouth attends to the BJ-ing while your hands are free to touch yourself. Plus, it’s super comfortable.

Cons: Not great for eye contact. You can take the time to share a gaze every once in a while, or convey what you’re feeling via moans.

Switch It Up: Let them thrust into your mouth, or they can stay still and you bring your mouth to them.

Make It Hotter: Go ultra lazy and lie back, letting a toy take the lead.

How to Do It: Prop a powerful vibrator between a mattress and box spring, or the cushion and frame of a soft couch or chair. Your partner lies on their back or sits, and you press yourself against the rumbly spot.

Pros: Vibes for you, and you’ll have your hands free to add to the glorious BJ you’re giving.

Cons: Direct contact between your genitals and whatever surface you’re pressing against can be messy. Throw a towel or blanket down first.

Switch It Up: Instead of just pressing against the toy, try thrusting against it.

Make It Hotter: For an even rumblier ride, wrap the vibe in a towel or blanket and hop aboard.

How to Do It: Your partner lies on their back. You lie face down, straddling a pillow, and slip a lubed hand between your legs. As you suck your partner, slide back and forth over your hand.

Pros: This is great for humpers because you can hump away as you please (and as you're pleasing).

Cons: You won’t have both hands available to enhance your BJ. You can just use one hand, or just go mouth-only.

Switch It Up: Add an arousal gel to enhance your sensations.

Make It Hotter: If you need more power, invest in a toy mount that can hold a Magic Wand or DIY it and stick a lil something between two pillows, pressing them together with your knees.

How to Do It: Lie facing each other so you’re in a sideways 69 position. Take turns giving oral sex to avoid that awk 69 zone where you're simultaneously giving and receiving, yet not doing either properly.

Pros: You get to become more attuned to each other’s bodies and how they respond. Plus watching each other get more turned on amps everything up.

Cons: You might be there awhile. If anyone gets sore, shift around a little until all is well.

Switch It Up: Incorporate edging. Torture your partner by bringing them just to the brink of orgasm, then switch.

Make It Hotter: Draw it out as long as possible for the most explosive orgasm. (If you add edging, know that edging is inherently frustrating. If it’s too much, have a kind of "opposite" safe word that means you really are ready to cum, like, ASAP, pls.)

How to Do It: Kneel in front of your partner and slide their pants off. Their job is to stand, receive, and stroke your hair gratefully. You can straddle a vibrator, or press one between your legs.

Pros: Mutual stimulation—you both get yours at the same time? Hell yeah.

Cons: This one might not feel great on your knees. Try it on a carpet, or put a pillow under your knees.

Switch It Up: Try a rabbit-style dildo vibe with an attached part that buzzes against your clit, for simultaneous internal and external stimulation.

Make It Hotter: Go slowly to enhance their anticipation. Kiss your way up their inner thigh, giving them time to appreciate the always-glorious moment of "Omg, this gorgeous person is about to suck my dick!"

How to Do It: Get in a 69 position with you on top, then raise your hips up and away from their mouth to let them use their fingers on your parts.

Pros: They get an amazing view of their fingering skills in action while getting an upside-down BJ. And you get to feel their fingers on you.

Cons: It can be hard to focus on giving and getting at the same time. Totally okay to take turns.

Switch It Up: Trade places and have them suck on you while you give them a handie.

Make It Hotter: Try it with a toy instead of fingers.

How to Do It: Your partner lies on their back. Instead of kneeling between their legs, straddle one of their thighs.

Pros: Rubbing your clit against their body will give you some solid stimulation, especially if you like to cum via grinding or humping.

Cons: If you’re not a humper or grinder, this might not be orgasmic for you. No harm, no foul, just take your orgasm after they do.

Switch It Up: Slather some coconut oil on their thigh, letting it melt with the heat of their skin. Make a big deal of prepping the space that you’re going to ride.

Make It Hotter: This is extra amazing if you're wet and they can feel your slipperiness as you rub on them. If the giving the BJ is making you wet, let your partner know with something simple like “Feel how wet you’re making me?” Add more dirty talk. Tell them exactly what it is about their peen that’s doing it for you (the taste of them, how swollen they are, etc…).

How to Do It: Lie on your back and let your partner mount your mouth. They can lie on top of you, or, if you lean your head off the edge of the bed, they can stand next to the bed.

Pros: This works well for power play because your partner is fully in control of the thrusting and depth.

Cons: This might feel overwhelming. When you're surrendering control of the depth of penetration, make sure you let your partner know if they’re going too deep or you don’t love it.

Switch It Up: Work your fingers between your legs as you take your partner’s mouth.

Make It Hotter: If you’re into the power exchange, play up moaning and even gagging a little if it doesn’t feel too fake or porny to you. (This is all about play. If aren’t into it, don’t do it!)

How to Do It: Climb aboard for a few long, slow, sexy thrusts before sliding off and taking your partner in your mouth again. Keep switching back and forth, repeating as you’d like.

Pros: If you're into the taste of sex, you’ll love that you’re tasting yourself on them. Alternating will also make them last longer, drawing out the experience.

Cons: Not for those who aren't comfy with their own taste. If you still want to give it a go, try a flavored lube.

Switch It Up: Try a truncated version starting with the BJ then finish with you on top.

Make It Hotter: When you’re riding them, guide their hand to your clit so they can stroke you as you thrust.