Good news for those in the middle of a raging office crush: A US survey has found that about a third of couples that got their start at the office have ended up at the altar.
Of course, it’s not all daily lunch dates and stolen kisses at the copy machine for these couples—they also have to balance the personal and the professional, consider any company policies on office romances, and face the constant scrutiny of those gossips from marketing. But many coworker couples have been able to conquer the office-related obstacles and have gone on to stand the test of time—staying together even after one or both left the company that first brought them together.
Below, we gathered nine such couples. Read on for how they met, how they’ve deflected office drama, and why YOU should pursue that office crush—provided, of course, you won’t get in trouble with HR.
“I knew he knew I liked him (looking back, I was super obvious!), but he never said or did anything and remained a gentleman.”
Tin: I first saw Mike at an office meeting, and immediately, my legs went jelly. There weren’t a lot of handsome guys in our office, so if one walked by, all the girls would notice ASAP. He was introduced as our new client servicing partner—and guess who the client was!
Now, maybe working with your crush doesn’t work for most people, but it did for me. I was always inspired at work, and it also helped a lot that he was very easy to work with. I valued his input (it didn’t hurt that he was super smart!) and we seemed to really work well together. We got closer and closer after every successful campaign, and we also got close outside of work: We would go to the gym together and play video games.
I knew he knew I liked him (looking back, I was super obvious!), but he never said or did anything and remained a gentleman.
Then, at an office party, it finally happened. I finally had the courage to ask him if he was dating anyone! Blame it on the wine or the occasion, but the words came out of my mouth. He stopped for a second, looked at me, and said that he was not, but that he already had someone in mind whom he’d been meaning to ask out. I tried to hide how hurt and jealous I felt and just looked away, thinking of how to change the topic. When I turned to look at him, he held my hand and asked me if I would go out with him. I almost cried from kilig!
It’s been over five years since that fateful day. I’m glad I took this work opportunity, or else I wouldn’t have met my best friend and the love of my life.
“If you ask her about her first impression of me, she’ll tell you she wasn’t interested. And it’s true.”
Keith: I met Maui when I applied for a graphic designer position at a consulting company. She had been there for around six months by then. Little did I know she was already being trained to handle the Creative Department.
I knew I liked her when I found out we had the same interests. But if you ask her about her first impression of me, she’ll tell you she wasn’t interested. And it’s true. She really wasn’t interested in me.
Since she was the manager and I was working under her, people discouraged me from pursuing her as it wasn’t allowed at our company. She, on the other hand, did not care at all. I worked hard as the lead graphic designer and eventually, it all paid off as I got promoted—we were on the same level. Yay!
That’s when I started to show her that I really liked her. I decided to accompany her on her jeepney rides going home. She lives far from work, so I took advantage of that to be able to spend more time with her.
When I first tried to do this, she ran as soon as she got off the jeepney. I couldn’t help but laugh because she was really awkward. But after that, I think she got used to it because I wouldn’t stop. It took months before she agreed to be a couple, but it was all worth it.
Fast-forward to 2019, and we’ve been together for four years already, now working as freelancers.
Our advice for those with budding workplace relationships is to wait. If it’s not okay now, then wait. Work on yourself first and if the timing is right, then go for it.
“When he asked me to join one of his climbs, I didn’t hesitate even though I had no mountain climbing experience—something just felt right.”
Leah: I was a newly-hired editor for a company where Ray was part of the video team. I had gotten hired through a friend of a friend who worked there. A month into the job, my boss introduced me to Ray—turns out he was the one who had submitted my CV to my department. He was the friend of a friend.
He was a very quiet guy who would only say hi if I did so first. Following one awkward early interaction between us, he never talked to me again.
The next time we spoke was a year later at a company planning where we were teammates. He was very funny and very insightful, and as I had just come from a bad breakup, was also very helpful.
Since then, we would always talk over Messenger. When he asked me to join one of his climbs, I didn’t hesitate even though I had no mountain climbing experience—something just felt right.
Initially, I didn’t want to be in a relationship with someone I worked with, but I saw how he always remained professional whenever we worked together. He treated me like a workmate and would always put on his serious work face, but he would always bring me coffee or a cookie or even a Post-It note to wish me a good day before leaving for a shoot. Although work was demanding, we found ways to make time for each other even if it meant just sitting next to each other while we both did our jobs.
We no longer work together, but we’ve been together for almost two years now. We’re getting married this August. I couldn’t be more excited to spend the rest of my life with this silly, handsome guy.
“I saw a picture of a girl pinned inside my supervisor’s cubicle. It was ‘love before first sight.’”
Mike: Just a few weeks into my job as an ad & promo specialist for ABS-CBN, I saw a picture of a girl pinned inside my supervisor’s cubicle. It was “love before first sight.” I knew in that moment that I had to meet her.
Days later, I visited the set of the TV show she was coincidentally an associate producer of. That set was the Pinoy Big Brother house, and when I finally met her in person, our own reality show began.
Initially, Cham was a little wary that I was younger than her; likewise, it was my first time to date someone older. But after several group dates, movie dates, and dinner dates—plus our long and fun conversations as I drove her from QC all the way to Muntinlupa almost every night—we got to know each other so well that it really felt like I had found my soulmate.
We officially became a couple five months later. That was the first time I revealed to her that I had fallen for her even before I met her.
Being in a relationship in the workplace turned out to be more a benefit to us than a distraction. We understood the nature of each other’s work; thus, we easily supported one another. We grew our relationship along with our careers; Cham is now an executive producer and I am now a head for concept development.
We would eventually fly to several countries across the globe until we reached our main destination: the altar. Our reality show finally became a reality when we got married. We’ve now officially been “housemates” for two years and have welcomed our new one-year-old housemate, our daughter.
“Girls who had a crush on him would talk about him when I was within earshot, not knowing I was his girlfriend, haha!”
Klara: I had always joked that my ideal guy has a British accent.
I used to be a magazine editor, and one late afternoon at the office, after having A LOT of sweets, I heard someone talking with a British accent. I traced the voice to a newly-hired editor, and high on sugar, I introduced myself.
His name was Lawrence. When he told me his parents lived in London, I excitedly asked, “Can your parents adopt me? Can I be your sister?” I even proudly showed him the shoes I was wearing: Union Jack Chucks.
We added each other on Instagram and started chatting almost nightly. I honestly thought he was just looking for friends since he was new, so when he asked me to watch the movie Dunkirk with him, I didn’t even realize he was asking me out on a date. Apparently, he had already noticed me days before I introduced myself and was intrigued.
While the relationship wasn’t forbidden since we worked for different titles, we decided to keep it on the down-low. Girls who had a crush on him would talk about him when I was within earshot, not knowing I was his girlfriend, haha! I would often tease him about it! That didn’t stop him from leaving notes and treats on my desk, which I found really sweet.
Two years later, we now work for different companies, but I still swoon whenever I hear him talk.
Our advice? Spend your time together outside the office, not in it. It’s more special that way, and you avoid being the topic of office rumors.
“I saw what a gentleman he was and how different he was from the others. I found myself looking forward to seeing him.”
Roxie: Khail and I first met at our old office in BGC. He had been referred by a coworker to join our company as a developer, while I was already working there as a marketing assistant. We had been introduced in passing earlier, but it wasn’t until after a teammate’s despedida that we really talked.
While we seemed to be total opposites, we began to bond over our love for coffee. Thanks to the coffee kiosk near our office, we got to really know each other. Then, we started going out to dinner at least once a week and would spend several hours talking. I saw what a gentleman he was and how different he was from the others. I found myself looking forward to seeing him.
But I didn’t really know what we were to each other; maybe we were just friends hanging out. I had started having feelings for him, but I didn’t want to admit anything until he admitted it first.
My former manager was the one who asked Khail what he really felt for me. Thanks to her, he admitted that he liked me. I told him I felt the same way.
We’ve since left the company, but when we were working together, we made sure that work was work. We usually wouldn’t eat together at the office and would rarely talk there—we wouldn’t even text or message each other. We agreed that we didn’t want our bosses to think na pumapasok kami para lang maglambingan. But after work, we’d go on mini-dates.
One piece of advice we have for couples that work together: Remember to keep your professional relationship separate from your personal relationship.
“When I first saw her at the office, I knew she was new. I didn’t miss the chance to greet her as a matter of flirty courtesy.”
Thib: I used to work as a pilot for a local airline. I had already been working there for over a year when I met Blu. I was familiar with my colleagues, so when I first saw her at the office, I knew she was new. I didn’t miss the chance to greet her as a matter of flirty courtesy.
It was a week later when I saw her again and was able to exchange a few words with her before we both went on our respective flights. She surprisingly texted me first, and from then on, we started to communicate more often.
After weeks of getting to know each other, we decided to be more than friends. We kept things low-key for a while, not wanting to get too much and unnecessary attention from our coworkers.
As we’re often flying away from home for days, the crews spend a lot of time together, sometimes more than they do with their own families. It can be a challenge, but in our case, we have always been able to make time for each other and go on trips very regularly—even for only a day sometimes! Those short bonding sessions have been the key for us to strengthen our relationship and appreciate each other.
Lots of people ask how we could possibly make the relationship work, as we are both pilots. Being adventurous has helped, as we share the same excitement for island trips and really enjoy being together.
Three years later, and we still look for new islands and new challenges to come across!
“Weeks passed, and our officemates started to notice our growing closeness. That’s when things started getting toxic.”
Murvi: I met Josephus when I was just 21. I was an admin assistant at a government agency, and he was a technical assistant.
We were first introduced to each other by a coworker from HR. My first impression of him was that he looked old and stressed, LOL. He sat right beside me, but we didn’t really talk.
One day, out of the blue, he spoke to me. I was eating, and he told me, “Ang bilis mo namang kumain.” The conversation went on, and all of a sudden he spoke in Cebuano—my language back home! Right then and there, I knew we would be good friends.
Days passed and our friendship grew deeper. Eventually, he asked me out. We didn’t go on a typical first date; instead, we found a karinderya and drank Pilsen until we got so drunk that he fell asleep outside my dorm. That became our routine: We would look for a karinderya in Pasig and drink cold beer.
Weeks passed, and our officemates started to notice our growing closeness. That’s when things started getting toxic. Coworkers would give us a look every time they’d see us together, and we would be reprimanded for supposedly spending too long on lunch break, or even talking to each other at the office. But none of that affected our relationship.
We no longer work at that agency. Today, we are celebrating our second anniversary. To our fellow millennials who fell for their coworkers, if it makes you happy, go for it!
“One day, he told me that he would like to court me, and that I should give him a chance.”
Regine: I am a writer while Oliver is an accounting supervisor at our company. He said he first noticed me at the company team building in August 2018, and that he did not believe in love at first sight until he saw me. We have a lot of common friends at work, which played an essential role in how we got together.
Before Oliver came into my life, I thought that I was meant to grow old alone. I had only had one boyfriend before him, and I was with that boyfriend for seven years until he cheated on me. I joined Tinder, became a Tinderella, but none of my dates ever worked out.
When I met Oliver, I honestly did not feel anything for him. I even thought that we wouldn’t get along because he seemed so uptight. But then one day, he told me that he would like to court me, and that I should give him a chance.
I did, and five months later, we’re engaged!
It all happened so fast, but all I know is that everything in my life has now made sense. I learned that when the right person comes along, everything will fall into place and love will feel easy—never complicated. And I have learned the greatest lesson: that love is not meant to be chased. You just have to let the right one find you at the right time.