Unless you’ve been living under a rock, you should have some idea of who broke the internet recently: Hiddleswift. Swifties and Hiddlestoners (yes, that’s really what Tom Hiddleston fans are calling themselves) had mixed reactions. Some jumped on this ship, believing it’ll survive longer than the Titanic, while others used their degree in Internet opinions and the slut-shaming ensued:
Taylor Swift never wastes any time. Her bench STAYS full.— Awesomely Luvvie (@Luvvie) June 15, 2016
taylor swift is such a dating hoe like she jumps from guy to guy like GIRL sit down for a sec and write some songs. thanks.— ? (@lastingariana) June 15, 2016
How could someone move on so fast ???????? #taylorswift moves faster than my internet— habeera (@siddiq_areebah) June 16, 2016
And the thing is, we're not even surprised. This type of violent reaction to Taylor Swift's dating life is predictable. Even Tay Tay acknowledged it during an interview with Vogue. When asked what advice she'd give her 19-year-old self, she responded, "You’re gonna date just like a normal 20-something should be allowed to but you’re going to be a national lighting rod for slut-shaming."
Since she became famous, Taylor has dated or has been linked to Calvin Harris, Joe Jonas, Taylor Lautner, John Mayer, Jake Gyllenhaal, and Harry Styles. If you sift through all the misogynistic garbage written about her dating history, you'll probably see words like, "crazy" or "too emotional" or "moved on too fast" or "not so innocent after all." In fact, when Taylor and Calvin Harris broke up a few weeks ago, #IDumpedTaylorSwiftBecause started trending on Twitter:
#IDumpedTaylorSwiftBecause I was getting concerned she was running out of material— Andy Bentley (@AndyBentley1) June 5, 2016
#IDumpedTaylorSwiftBecause a lot of plays have been ran on that field.— DerrickD.Rush Mr No¢ (@TheDerrickRUSH) June 3, 2016
#IDumpedTaylorSwiftBecause i couldnt stop laughing at her riding me in cowgirl.— DerrickD.Rush Mr No¢ (@TheDerrickRUSH) June 3, 2016
Think about that for a second. At the time, Calvin and Taylor ended their relationship like adults. It didn't work out, they were supportive of each other, and it was seriously the healthiest break up we've seen in a long time, and yet, somebody still felt the need to create that revolting hashtag and for what? Those who participated or defended it claimed that it was "just a joke." Assuming it was "just a joke," isn't it still cruel to kick someone when they're down?
Now that Taylor and Tom are rumored to be dating, there's no shortage of relationship advice on the internet. People are losing their shit because "it's too soon." Nevermind the fact that we don't REALLY know when her relationship with Calvin ended or for how long she's been getting to know Tom. But is there some kind of handbook that dictates how long a person should wait before dating someone else? What is morally wrong about finding love (or like or lust or whatever) again?
Out of all the truly evil things happening in the world today, should we really slaughter someone for not spending "enough" time being sad?
It's not just Taylor, either. Gigi Hadid received some backlash when she started dating Zayn Malik on the same month she dumped Joe Jonas. Ariana Grande was slut-shamed when she moved on to backup dancer Ricky Alvarez right after she broke up with Big Sean. But there are no disgusting hashtags about Louis Tomlinson getting Briana Jungwirth pregnant five months after he broke up with Eleanor Calder. And no one's crucifying Leonardo DiCaprio for having a new woman—usually a younger model—on his arm every time the season shifts. Literally, it's like the internet collectively goes, "Oh, that's just Leo!"
This double standard needs to stop. Taylor, and every other woman, should be allowed to date whomever she wants, whenever she wants, and however many times she wants! Breaking up is a part of dating. There shouldn't be any shame in liking somebody and then admitting that it wasn't a good fit. We often forget the celebrities are people too, and that their lives aren't ours to control or judge. Live and let live.
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