When was the last time you instantly clicked with someone? You can’t pinpoint exactly what it is about him or her that makes you feel so at ease, but for some reason, you just do. Sometimes you don't even need to have anything in common.
It's strange, but nice. Really nice.
Rom-coms would have us believe that it’s a matter of destiny or an unexplainable "spark," but it actually just boils down to your willingness to let the other person in.
Clicking with someone has less to do with the content of the conversation, and more with your ability to let your guard down around them.
Ori Brafman and Rom Brafman, authors of the interesting book Sway: The Irresistable Pull of Irrational Behavior, shed light on this phenomenon in Click: The Magic of Instant Connections.
"Allowing yourself to be vulnerable helps the other person to trust you, precisely because you are putting yourself at emotional, psychological, or physical risk," they explain. "Other people tend to react by being more open and vulnerable themselves. The fact that both of you are letting down your guard helps to lay the groundwork for a faster, closer personal connection."
Our vulnerability is one element of clicking that we have control over. We get to decide who we trust and who we are open to having a deeper connection with.
"When you both make yourselves vulnerable from the outset and are candid in revealing who you are and how you think and feel, you create an environment that fosters the kind of openness that can lead to an instant connection — a click."
So CGs, now you know. Don't be afraid to let your guard down from time to time. You never know when the right one will come along.