Whether you’re a girl who loves giving BJs or one who views the act as a necessary evil, you know you want your guy shaking his way to the finish line whenever you go downtown. We got eight real girls to share what they really think of giving head: the good, the bad, and that look on a guy’s face once he has come. (PRICELESS.)
Men, you are not entitled to a blow job.
“Giving head is way different from how porn stars portray it—all seductive smiles while maintaining the kind of eye contact that says, ‘Give it to me baby!’ Porn has given men the notion that it is a basic thing women have to do and that we are ecstatic to do it for them all the time—not always the case.” —Jessica, 28
“I feel like guys sometimes think that getting a BJ is a right. And don’t get me started on those assholes who think they’re so subtle with the slight pressure on the shoulder. Really, man? Not cool.” —Kristine, 28
But the control it gives us? It’s a major turn-on.
“I like the feeling that I’m the one behind all the pleasure that’s driving him over the edge. Or his reactions when I suck those balls and roll them with my tongue, those sexy groans he makes when I graze that shaft with my teeth, that conflicted look he gives when he’s about to let go but doesn’t want it to end yet—thinking, hearing, seeing those things turn me on.” —Kat, 24
“I feel even more determined to give my guy oral pleasure when he moans, grunts, or whenever I see his satisfied reaction. Sometimes, I reward him by spicing up my techniques. The more adventurous I get, the more he asks for more and gives in return.” —Bree, 25
It takes work to look sexy while doing it. It takes work, PERIOD.
“When giving head, I make sure I cover the basics: 1) Look sexy while doing it—or at least try to; 2) Stare at him intensely like he is the hottest being I’ve ever laid eyes on; and 3) Be creative with my hands—grip, tug, massage, do whatever touching I need with both hands to please him. Some of the thoughts I’ve had while down there: ‘I can’t believe I have his thingy inside my mouth!’, ‘Oh, he likes that! What if I do this? What if I touch this?’, ‘I wonder how many neck muscles I’m exercising right now?’, and 'Buti na lang mahal kita!'—Jessica
The fear of puking is REAL.
“If your peen is too big, all you’re getting from me is a little tip action. I have a sensitive gag reflex; deep throating is a no-no.” —Kristine
“My guy always asks me to deep throat him; I guess he loves how it feels. I’m happy to do it for him, but my eyes water just trying not to gag through it all.” —Ana, 30
Sometimes, it just takes too damn long for you to come.
“Many minutes into a blow job, if he still hasn’t come and I’m just slobbering all over him and the sheets while practically gagging on a huge hunk of meat and developing lockjaw at the same time, I start to wonder if I’m even doing it right, and when I can be excused from this mission because I sure as hell am not getting any pleasure from it, even though I act like I am.” —Ana
When you finally come, we're like, "Hell yeah, I'm THAT good."
“I like looking up and taking a peek at how my partner is enjoying what I’m doing to him. I feel like it’s such an achievement when I make him come in my mouth. And I love it when, after the act, he says, ‘You’re the best!’” —Amanda, 30
“I feel a burning joy whenever I get to turn a man’s blank face into an animated one simply because it proves that my blow job skills are a national treasure. When he murmurs ‘ooooohhs’ and ‘aaaaaahs’ while I’m down there and when he finally explodes inside my mouth, I swear it feels like my labia are clapping. It’s self-validation, at least for me, so don’t feel special.” —Lauren, 27
Yeah, we kinda wish you’d return the favor after we give you one.
“Seriously, a blow job is a freaking labor of love with no sexual returns! And after I do this to him, is he going to wimp out and be knocked out for the rest of the night? Because man, I won’t even bother!” —Stef, 29
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