Being cheated on is rubbish. It's the biggest pile of poo emojis you've ever seen, times a hundred. Breaking your trust and making you feel not good enough all at the same time, it's hard to feel like there's anything good that can come out of being cheated on. Except your partner having been exposed as the little rat they are, of course.
But new scientific research has concluded that there actually can be some benefit to your ex's adultery. Really? Tell us how.
New research carried out by Binghamton University in conjunction with University College London asked 5,705 participants from 96 countries to give a numerical rating of how painful their breakups felt. With 10 being unbearable, and 0 being not painful at all, the researchers discovered exactly what we would have predicted: women take breakups a lot harder than men.
And the research also clarified something else we'd also suspected. While women pour out their emotions, needing to dwell, mope, and talk it through with anyone who will listen, this actually means that in the long-run, we do a better job of getting over it.
We become emotionally stronger after getting over the past relationship and addressing the issues, whereas men tend to sweep it under the carpet, moving on but never fully recovering.
"The man will likely feel the loss deeply and for a very long period of time as it 'sinks in' that he must 'start competing' all over again to replace what he has lost—or worse still, come to the realization that the loss is irreplaceable," research associate Craig Morris said. *Cue Beyoncé song*
What does this have to do with cheating, though? Well the scientists focused on this as a particular issue, and discovered that both men and women who were assessed in the study recalled feeling positive repercussions of an adulterous relationship.
Women are reported to develop a higher emotional intelligence after having been cheated on, which is something. Men, on the other hand, develop stronger personalities apparently.
"Most women who have lost a mate to another women report a 'silver lining' of higher mating intelligence," Morris said. "What this means, in their words, is that they are more attuned to cues of infidelity in a future mate, more aware of how other women interact with their mate, [have] more self confidence and more self-awareness, and independence in general."
Oh, and just to satisfy the secret hope in you that your former partner's new relationship goes to shit, science confirmed that's usually the case, too.
"Logic, and anecdotal evidence suggest that the woman who poached a man from another woman will not have a successful long term relationship in most cases," the researcher confirmed. Just as we'd hoped.
So all in all, it's a win for the scorned woman. Silver linings indeed.
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.co.uk. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.