If you were to give your younger self one piece of advice, what would it be? What important thing would you actually say? About jobs, friendships, or maybe even exes? As they say, hindsight is golden. Here are 13 pieces of advice your favorite celebrities wish they could have given their younger selves.
"Only do something you're comfortable with: If you don't want the guy to know where you live, offer to meet him at the restaurant," Khloe wrote on her app while offering her younger self dating advice. "If you don't want the pressure of going to dinner, then suggest another activity. It's about only doing what's within your personal comfort level and walking away from the date feeling like you had fun.
"Be secure with your decision: Sometimes we just do things to do them. I think it takes away from the specialness of who we are. So if you decide not to go out with a guy, own your decision because another great one will be on his way in no time, boo!"
"Make sure you know how much everyone else is getting paid," J-Law said at the Toronto International Film Festival after the Sony Pictures hack revealed that she was paid substantially less for 2013's American Hustle than her male co-stars.
The former First Lady wrote a special letter to her younger self for PEOPLE, which said, "If I could give my younger self just one piece of advice, it would be this: Stop being so afraid! That's really what strikes me when I look back—the sheer amount of time I spent tangled up in fears and doubts that were entirely of my own creation. I was afraid of not knowing the answer in class and looking stupid, or worried about what some boy thought of me, or wondering whether the other girls liked my clothes or my hair, or angsting about some offhand comment someone made to me in the lunchroom.
"I would love to go back in time and tell my younger self, 'Michelle, these middle and high school years are just a tiny blip in your life, and all the slights and embarrassments and heartaches, all those times you got that one question wrong on that test—none of that is important in the scheme of things.'"
"I'd encourage myself to love myself and fight for myself, as hard as I fought for other people," the actress told PEOPLE.
"Never get married is number one, that's probably the best advice I could give myself," Britney joked during an interview with Scott Mills on BBC Radio One.
"One day you'll appreciate how much your brown skin shines in the moonlight, glistens in the sun, and ages ever so slowly," Gabrielle said in an interview with Ebony Magazine. "Don't let that pesky low self-esteem creep in and fool you into believing that you don't have value. Don't allow it to crush your will or dampen your spirit."
Melissa shared her advice for her younger self with PEOPLE: "If I could go back in time and tell my 10-year-old self anything, I would tell her: Don't worry about what other people think, or about whether you're doing what they think is the right thing. The things you worry about now, they mostly won't matter. So just follow your heart. I would tell my 16-year-old self, in a few years, you're going to go nuts, just be nicer to your mom and dad when you do."
"I'd tell myself to love myself because when we love ourselves we make good choices," J-Lo told MindFood. "When we don't, we are not focused and we make bad choices. I learned that lesson the hard way."
Tracee Ellis Ross
In an interview with Teen Vogue, she advised her younger self, "There will be parts of your body that you are not fond of. That's OK. You can love those parts of you even if you don't like them. And you do that by being kind to them. And speaking gently and lovingly to those parts of yourself."
On the topic of advice for her younger self, Reese told MindFood, "That no one is coming to save you and you will have to save yourself. And also that no relationship, no child, mother, or father [is] going to fix your problems."
Jada Pinkett Smith
"I wish I had known then that pain is just a part of your journey and it's not because you've done something wrong or because you're cursed or you're a bad person, we're all going through it," Jada revealed to ET. "We all have pain, we all have a story. And, so, all we need to do is support each other through it and I wish I had known that, 'Jada, it's just a part of it, baby. It's going to be okay.'"
The singer wrote a moving letter to her younger self for PEOPLE, which read, "Don't let people scare and shame you into changing the things about yourself that make you unique and interesting. Those are the qualities that will make your life so magical. That bad girl, 'I don’t give a s—' attitude, that'll work for a while and you will get a dollar sign tattooed on yourself that will last forever, probably.
"But the truth is, you don't need to put on an act. You can just be Kesha Rose Sebert. And guess what? Apparently, that's good enough."
"I would say, you're beautiful the way that you are, and to not focus on anything but your mental and physical health, before work. Put it before everything," she said during an InStyle interview. "Because that's the most important, is taking care of yourself."
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com/uk. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.