A lot of single gals are probably breathing a sigh of relief now that Valentine's Day is finally over. But we sure hope you had fun last February 14, whatever your relationship status is. Besides, being single isn't bad at all. Still not convinced? You might want to pick up a piece of advice or two from our February 2011 Cosmo Online Hunk Gino Dela Pena.
For the past two weeks, we tried to get to know him and decode his dating style. This week, however, we will get into a deeper conversation with Gino, 23, as we ask him about his views on relationships, singlehood, and The One.
Read on for his insightful takes on love and heartbreak, speaking from several real-life experiences. Trust us, when you get to the end of the interview, you'd want to turn out to be the girl he's been getting ready for, all this time. Don't forget to check out his latest set of lust-worthy photos.
What’s your current relationship status?
But are you dating anyone?
No, none. Well, for me, I think it’s just that I don’t wanna give a girl an impression that we're dating or anything. Because sometimes, whether you like it or not, expectations come. And, in a way, for me I want the girl to be protected. I don't wanna give her impressions that will lead her to [believe in] things that are not really happening. I was in a situation before where I was just friends with someone and she thought we were dating. [I'm] just being careful.
Another reason that I’m not dating is, I really wanna achieve everything. I wanna be empty. Empty, meaning all of me is maximized. So when I get to meet her, or when I finally put my heart into everything that I wanna give her, I wanna give her everything—again. I just wanna spoil her, treat her right, give her anything that no one ever gave her--an experience she never felt before.
Does that mean you want to be complete before you enter a relationship?
I wanna be complete, of course. You can’t give what you don’t have. You can't love someone if you don’t love yourself.
How do you know when you’re already in love with someone?
I guess when there’s peace. In a way there’s peace, but in a way you’re out of control. Out of control in [a sense] that, you don’t think of anything, anyone else but her. Of course, there should be peace, because at the end of the day, you really wanna be with someone [with whom] you share the same faith. You know, it's not really about faith in church or anything, but you share the same outlook, common values.
How old were you when you first fell in love?
Real relationship? I guess this was a time when you really got hurt, that’s a real relationship. I guess [it was] when I was 14.
How did it go? How long did it last?
Well the thing was, we went out for two years and six months. We were both young. You know, it’s like, you would always think that she’s the one. You visualize things, you think of her being your wife, it’s like you’re too serious. Being in love for the first time is something that is so different. But then maturity in age was a factor that really pushed everything aside. College came, and then other guys, other people came in. We were really young, so she decided to look for greener pastures.
How many girlfriends have you had?
I’ve had three.
Are you friends with your exes?
Yeah, I am. The first one yeah, she’s married now. The second one, I am friends with her casually, but I don’t talk to her as much as the first one. And the third one, I haven’t seen because she’s really not from here.
What do you think was the most common reason for the breakup among the three?
Well, uh, they actually dated the same guy behind my back, so, there. But the guy didn’t know [that I was with either of them]. And to tell you honestly, I am really good friends with the guy, he really apologized to me. He was like, "I’m sorry, at that time I thought she was single." But the girls made it out that they were single [even if] they weren’t. It’s really not their fault also. There were [difficult] circumstances, things that were going on in their house. I don’t blame them for what happened, I blame the situation. I was never really mad at them.
After the "incidents," who decided to break up with whom?
I guess it was the situation that spoke for itself. When you see that something was off already, I think the two of you would really feel that you have to separate. Because on one side, you would think that, "I did this [to] this guy so I don’t have any right seeing him." And then for me, I was like, "Okay, whatever."
Describe how you were when your heart was broken.
The first one was, of course, really bad. Depression was there. It took me a couple of months to recover. The second time my heart got broken, I was like, "I know this already, I know this." And the thing is that God was really making ways to make me okay. The healing came from Him. I would always go to church. Not because it was an obligation; I just felt peace going to church. Like, every time I would hear the sermons, the services, I would always feel restored. And then the third one came, you know how they say it, you’re sanay na. You already know the solution. I think that's why I got closer to God. I think I was grateful for those breakups because it really built my faith; I know God was always there with me when I needed him. It was God’s healing, God’s love really.
When do you see yourself entering a relationship again?
Probably a few years from now, when every [one of my] goals have been achieved. And, even for the girl, I would want her to be the best that she can be. I wanna marry, of course. When we get married, I don’t want her to have any regrets. Probably five or seven years from now.
What makes a woman girlfriend material?
I guess [it's] the sincerity. You would really know if the girl is portraying to be someone. I want her to be sincere. I’m a very simple guy, I want simple things. I don’t wanna it to be complicated, I just want her for who she is.
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