The holidays aren’t always easy for everyone. Despite the pretty lights, barkada reunions, and delicious food, Christmas can also be a very lonely time for people going through a rough patch in their lives. How can you possibly listen to “Last Christmas” without bursting into tears when you’re going through a tough breakup? Or perhaps your family is on the other side of the world, so you have no choice but to celebrate on your own.
But hey, you will be okay. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have in your life at the moment, focus on the stuff that you actually have. Here are a few things you should keep in mind to have a happier holiday:
1. Surround yourself with family and friends.
Just because you’re alone doesn’t mean you should be lonely. Rejection sucks big time, but you shouldn’t let the opinion of one person ruin you. There are so many people in your life who love and care about you. Spend time with them! So plan a reunion with your high school buddies, or have a heart to heart with your mom over coffee—it will definitely make you feel a lot better.
If you’re out of the country, make it a point to Skype or FaceTime with your loved ones. Even just a short catch-up session a once a week will make a big difference.
2. Cut ties with the toxic people in your life once and for all.
They will drain your happiness and leave you feeling miserable and sad. Remember: only you have the power to determine your worth. It’s one thing to acknowledge that someone is bad for you—it’s another to actually do something about it. Letting go of someone you love will never be easy, but sometimes it is necessary. You don’t need to put up with that nega friend who makes you feel like you’re never good enough. You shouldn’t settle for a guy who makes you cry more than he makes you smile. Don’t compromise your own happiness for someone else’s.
3. Start a happiness diary and jot down all the things you are thankful for this year.
Take a look back at the year that has passed and write down all your happy memories. Even if you feel like you’ve had the worst year ever, try to see past all the sad moments and focus on the things that made it worthwhile. Your family trip to Bohol; the day you got a promotion; that one random night out with your barkada when you felt like you were infinite—these are the things you should remember this year. After that, start listing down your possible resolutions for 2015.
4. Don’t spend all day on social media.
Social media may be fun and useful, but it also exposes you to practically everything. Even little triggers like Instagram photos or random messages can send you spiraling back to square one. It’s also very time-consuming, so you end up wasting your whole day online (and maybe even feel bad in the process.) The most logical thing to do is to get rid of all temptation. Block, delete, or mute the person who makes you feel like crap every single day. Resist the urge to check up on him or her on social media. It will be hard at first, but trust us, you will feel much lighter once you get used to it. Don’t let social media dictate how you feel. You should spend real time with real people instead.
5. Listen to cheerful Christmas songs.
Have you met Grumpy Cat? Yes, he totally gets how you feel about Christmas. Steer clear of the lovey-dovey ballads and listen to upbeat songs on Spotify!
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