1. Younger couples who move in together fast are much more likely to break up.
Depressing news for folks who like to take things fast: Couples who move in together before the age of 23 generally don't have a promising future and that doesn't taper off until you're 30. The longer a couple waits to move in together, the more likely it'll work long-term and that's what everyone wants, right? Because, unfortunately, dividing up your broken dreams is not the most fun.
2. You want to be fully committed before learning the other person's gross habits.
If bathroom sink beard stubble and burping the alphabet after a few beers are things you're not prepared to live with, you're not ready to move in together. (And let's not even talk about your own trash TV addiction and couch cushion candy bar stashes, you little monster.)
3. You don't have to talk about the Huge Important Stuff just yet.
And I'm not just talking about where's your favorite place to get delivery—although that's very important, too!—I'm talking the biggies like kids and money. If you're not willing to share bank balances, you're not ready to have both your names on a lease. Which is good to keep in mind, because...
4. Discussing things like how you'll split the bills and who will do what around the house are some serious work.
Talking about money is hard even in the most solid of relationships and probably not something you want to tackle in the first couple of months. That time is for being goo-goo ga-ga for each other—I'm talking puppy dog kisses and boxes of chocolates the size of large land mammals. Enjoy all that mushy gushy stuff first without figuring out who is in charge of paying the electricity bill.
5. You have your own space while you're figuring out how to communicate best.
Sure, you can always run out and slam the door after an argument over who last scrubbed the toilet, but you still have to return to that person if you don't want to sleep on a dog bed in an alley. Learning how to properly communicate can take some time and it's a lot harder to do that when you're constantly in each other's business. Waiting a little gives you guys time to figure out how to navigate the bigger issues and not sweat the small stuff before you ramp everything up 1,000 percent by constantly being in each other's faces.
6. You can save up money for a nice place.
Just think about it! If you guys start saving money six months into your relationship with the goal of moving in at one year, you'll have a much more lovely space.
7. Your alone time rules.
You know how you love to pop in a Shaun-T tape, strip down to nothing but your sports bra and a pair of sweat pants and then sweat all over the place while yelling at the TV, "Bring it, Shaun-T!"? Well, that's a bit more embarrassing whey your partner is trying to meditate on the other side of the room. While you can, you should revel in your own space and how good it feels to paint your toe nails in bed while eating extra-crumbly crackers and watching Keeping Up With The Kardashians at top volume.
8. If you're in your 20s, you still want to be young and fun!
Explore. Go on vacations with friends. Stay out too late. Make dumb choices. Seriously, these are the things that you'll fondly look back on when you're 50. You'll be sitting at your kitchen table with your beloved partner and be like, "Remember when we spontaneously booked tickets to Japan and made out with that Australian dude in the Karaoke bar? Oh, that was just me? Hahaha!"
9. You're not ready for your relationship to change.
You're gonna get to know every part of him—good-bye, sexy boxer briefs and hello, stained boxer shorts. Reality is a cruel mistress. Are you ready to live with a man after he's buried himself under the blanket post-consuming an extra giant bean burrito? Ask yourself that question and answer it honestly.
10. You're not ready to have less sex.
Yeah. It's a thing. I don't know why this is but maybe it's the immediate and constant availability that makes some couples take it for granted, or maybe it's that you're less in the mood after spending all day listening to the other person complain about their fantasy football league's lackluster season, but there's not the same urgency to get naked every time you see each other. So enjoy the fun of doing it every single time while it lasts, because it won't be forever.
11. You'll take it seriously when you do move in together.
If you're cohabitating on your second date, you're probably more likely to cut ties after a fight over pizza toppings on your fourth. And since dividing up your stuff (or worse, fighting over the stuff you have!) is a monumentally stressful and depressing task, why not make extra sure that this is the real deal before cosigning a lease?
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.