Open relationships can be a tricky and risky thing. When it’s not handled properly, someone will most likely get hurt despite the casual nature of the relationship. So before you engage in a no strings attached fling with someone, ask yourself these things:
1. Are you emotionally stable?
You may jump into things without expectations, but it’s common for feelings to develop over the course of the relationship, especially if you’re an emotional person or you easily get attached to other people. If you think you are stable enough to know your limits, then by all means, go for it.
2. Do you easily get jealous?
Being in an open relationship means that you can both date or hook up with other people. One day he’ll be whispering sweet nothings to your ear and the next he’ll be cuddling another girl. If that doesn’t bother you, then great. But if it does, maybe open relationships aren’t for you.
3. Are you on the same page with the guy?
Communication is key. You have to set ground rules and talk about the specifics of your arrangement. Should you tell each other everything, like who else you’re seeing or sleeping with? You also have to be fair. If your guy does certain things, then you should be allowed to do them too.
4. What is your goal?
Is it just for fun? Are you experimenting? How long will this go on? Will it be strictly casual forever? You don’t have to set things in stone, but it will help to at least have an idea of the direction of your fling. And when it’s time to let go, you have to be prepared to really let go.
5. Do I see myself seriously ending up with this guy someday?
If your answer is yes, better walk away while you still can, girl. If you’re only agreeing to an open relationship because it’s what he wants, and not what YOU want, then it isn’t worth it. You will get hurt and it will suck BIG TIME.
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