Everyone has their own love language, but in case you've ever wondered what yours is, astrology can help you! Whether you just want to know what kind of person you're compatible with, or want to send this to your S.O. as a very direct hint to buy you more chocolates, your zodiac sign reveals how to make you feel the most loved.
As a sign ruled by Mars, the planet of action and motivation, you’re very passionate in everything you do, and light up everyone's lives with your Aries fire as a result. You want your S.O. to match and maintain the same energy you bring to the table, or else your attraction to them will fizzle out! Spontaneous dates, short adventures, or anything that surprises you and makes you feel special is the quickest way to your heart.
An instant turn-on for you is someone arousing your competitive spirit, whether it's challenging you at a game or sport, or playing with power dynamics in the bedroom. But you feel most loved when you're praised for your accomplishments, surprised with little compliments, or made to feel like an important individual. Sure, you like being the center of attention sometimes, but someone who can shine that spotlight on you will win you over.
As an earth sign, you have a reputation for being practical and logical, not so much lovey-dovey and flirtatious, Taurus. But that doesn't mean there’s no room for romance in your life—if anything, your ruling planet is Venus, the planet of love and beauty! Venus’ energy is felt more in the material realm for your sign, so you have a great appreciation for gifts from your S.O. When someone goes out of their way to buy you a lil' something that reminded them of you, it means a lot!
You’re also the most sensual sign in all of the zodiac, which means you’re very in-touch with all your senses, and are attracted to someone who's very well-put-together. A luxurious dinner followed by some slow, romantic AF sex is your ideal night with someone. Someone who can take things slow with you—enjoying cozy mornings sleeping in late together, or finding little ways to physically connect with you (like a hand on your lap when they're driving) is your ideal lover!
You don’t always hold interest in others for long, Gemini, so someone who can keep your attention is your first requirement when it comes to love! Your schedule gets very busy and changes frequently—you know someone cares about you when they can keep up with your lifestyle and adjust accordingly, instead of grumpily demanding that you slow down. And because you're harder to intrigue, you love when someone can teach you something new, and you’ll stick around as long as they’re able to keep intellectually stimulating you.
You feel adored when someone will listen to everything you have to say, and respond thoughtfully. Gifts and emotional displays aren’t necessarily a turn-off for you, but they certainly don’t matter as much to you as an interesting personality does. When someone can surprise you with a new date night spot, or introduce some new bedroom ideas, you grow closer to them. The more fun you have with your partner, the more enthusiastically you love them, which leads to more adventures with them!
When it comes to love, you’re either 100 percent in the relationship or you’re not, Cancer. When you find someone you can trust and open up to, you do everything you can to make their life feel as secure and comfortable as possible. Because of this, it's very important that your lover fully lets you into their life. You really start feeling the love when they return the favor and dote on you, too—you can do a lot, but only for someone who can let you be cared for just as much.
Even if your partner doesn’t match you on an emotional level—which is hard to do, since you’re one of the most emotional signs and make it very easy for people to open up to you—you love it when they indulge you in gushy, ridiculously-romantic moments together. The perfect night is getting cozy in front of the TV, cuddling and watching Netflix. What sounds too comfy and safe for some people is ideal for you. You want a partner who is easy to communicate with, doesn’t catch you off-guard, and won't try to rush any part of the relationship.
You love attention, Leo! Any kind of reassurance that you’re the center of your partner’s world only amplifies your love for them. A little kiss on the cheek before you say goodbye, or cute texts throughout the day make you feel like royalty. But if your partner wants to show you off on Instagram, that works too—you love being flaunted! In the bedroom, you need to be taken care of before you lift a finger for your S.O. (but when it's your turn, you will blow their mind!).
You’re one of the most generous signs, and you’ll give everything you have to your S.O., but they need to return the favor if you’re going to stick around. The occasional surprise gift, like flowers or sweets, do a lot to keep you happy in a relationship. When you need alone time and just want to take a catnap, you expect your partner to understand your boundaries. But when your more frisky side comes out, your partner has to step up and be just as playful and sweet! Let's face it: you want the most, and it can be exhausting for some. But the right person knows you're worth it all!
You work endlessly to make sure your partner’s life is running as smoothly as possible, Virgo. Because you can be a little shy and prone to putting other peoples' happiness above your own, it’s easy to feel unappreciated for all of the work you do for others. So when your S.O. takes the time to help you without being asked, you’re overjoyed! Actions speak louder than words for Earth signs such as yourself. While the typical romantic gestures and poetic love letters are nice and all, you want someone who goes a bit deeper in showing their affection. To you, "thank you for everything you do" is so much better than "I love you."
Someone who lets you critique them and nitpick a little is the perfect partner for you—you two can work together to get closer and closer to the "perfect relationship" you yearn for. You're a perfectionist with very particular tastes—someone who meets all of your requirements and standards is rare, but if you find them, you feel like the luckiest person in the world. truly lucky if you wind up together!
A partner who likes to spend a lot of time together is perfect for you, Libra. You love someone who can match you intellectually and hold an interesting conversation, and having a witty sense of humor helps, too. You don't need constant plans at all—you feel loved when you can just be with your partner, regardless of what else is going on. It also means a lot when your partner encourages your independence and gently helps you out of your comfort zone. You always want to take on the world as a team, but when you have someone that goes out of their way to recognize your personal achievements and let you steal the spotlight from time to time, you’ve truly found someone special!
You especially feel great when your partner takes you out and helps you meet new friends. You prioritize your relationships more than any other sign, and can rely on others’ positive opinions of you for a confidence boost. As for your partner, the occasional off-the-cuff "I love you" or ultra-specific compliment goes a long way.
When you let someone in, it’s a very serious thing, Scorpio. You want transparency from the other person right away, but you take much longer to reciprocate their levels of openness. Your ideal partner will be patient with how long it takes for you to emotionally commit, without rushing the process. It’s a tall order to fill, but when you feel enough love and trust for someone to have a relationship with them, you make it the most passionate and intense partnership of their life! You desire someone most when they have a secret or complex trait, but it has to be genuine—if someone is even the slightest bit superficial or fake, you’re over it.
You feel most loved when there’s a lot of physical contact from your partner. A strong sense of intimacy (in every sense of the word) is a requirement in order to be with you. You want someone to give the relationship their all, be great in bed, and share your emotional depth. They need to be willing to talk about taboo topics, answer your constant probing questions, and keep up with your passion in the bedroom. When someone manages to jump through all of your hoops and impress you with how much they’re attracted to you, you finally let yourself feel the affection and love from your partner. Only then is your desire for intimacy satisfied!
You need a certain amount of freedom in any relationship, and committing to one person can feel stifling or scary, Sagittarius! You want someone who can let you go on adventures and have your free time whenever you decide you need it. Better yet, you're into someone who can take you on an adventure and actually surpass the fast-paced life you live. You’re the luckiest sign with the biggest ideas, and a practical partner who supports your dreams and helps you realistically achieve them is best for you.
But you have to do things your way, and your partner has to guide you without making you feel like you're being corrected or condescended to. You put a lot of energy into your busy day-to-day life, so you appreciate it when your S.O. can at least try to keep up with you. You can tell someone really cares about you when they share your optimism, are capable of looking past your blunt nature, and can provide love and support without making you feel caged in at all.
Your sign isn’t always the easiest to approach, Capricorn. Your serious self-presentation can seem cold or standoffish at first, and getting you to reach out first doesn't happen often. But if someone is going out of their way to get your attention, you can warm up to them pretty quickly. A superficial flirtationship won’t last long, though—you take things pretty seriously from the start, and won’t invest in a relationship that doesn’t have lasting value!
When someone can prove that they really do love you, you become more and more confident in the relationship. And the more confident you feel, the more energetic of a lover you become! But your partner has to be careful—a forgotten anniversary or a little white lie can show cracks in the foundation of your partnership. A partner who is just as reliable as you are and never lets silly slip-ups happen is your ideal match. You want your investment of time, energy, and finances reciprocated. Someone who has the flexibility to accommodate your rigid personality, while still avoiding any kind of flakiness, is the one for you!
You don’t do relationships well all the time, Aquarius. Your detached nature can be intimidating to others, and they aren’t always attracted to all of your eccentricities! That’s fine by you, though. You don’t want someone who believes in love at first sight and instantly wants to be with you. To you, being best buds with your partner is extra-important, so starting out as platonic friends might be the key to your heart. As the friendship grows on and deeper feelings begin to develop organically, you slowly allow for more and more intimacy. You want someone to know all of your complexities and oddities and accept them before they get close.
Your bizarre taste in music or art doesn’t appeal to everyone, but your partner needs to accept and encourage your interests. Someone who is willing to explore unconventional ideas without ever judging you is sure to win you over. In the bedroom, they need to keep up with your latest kinky ideas, and they need to be open about their desires as well. You may experience a rainbow of romantic emotions, but rather than PDA or dramatic confessions of love, you’d rather just have a deep talk with your partner. The feelings are there, and you express them when you want. Someone that understands and respects those boundaries is the best for you.
It’s no secret you’re the most emotional sign, Pisces, and your mood can shift from one extreme to the other in the blink of an eye. You want someone who can take you as you are and accept your very kaleidoscopic feelings. You want the ideal fairytale romance, and your dreamy outlook on relationships is downright charming! An earnest love letter or a classic dinner-movie date night are your preferred displays of affection. There’s no secret to unlocking your heart—it’s always wide open! You have tons of compassion and endless love to offer.
Combined with your natural Piscean charm, you can’t help but captivate others. You need someone who understands that despite your flirtatious exterior, your love for them is rare and deeper than anything else you feel for anyone. The incredibly fluid nature of your feelings and desires can be a lot to handle—someone really loves you when they’re able to keep up with and accommodate your emotions. You want someone that lets you be free and do your own thing, but will always be there for you to come back home to.
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This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.