Outside of the usual "Hey, how are you?", it can sometimes be tricky to find unique ways to break the ice on a dating app. According the Myka Meier, the founder of app etiquette classes Beaumont Etiquette, there's one question you should avoid asking your match when you're first getting to know each other.
Apparently, you shouldn't ask what they do for a living, as this can seem "opportunistic" to some. "A lot of feedback that both men and women in our dating courses give us is that it's almost like if you were to ask, 'So how much money do you make?' 'So how well educated are you?'"
Meier also believes that this question can sometimes leads to a dead end, and your match may answer, but not ask you about your job. Although the same could be said for most questions...
Instead, Meier suggests sticking to talking about your match's background or interests at first by asking where they're from, what they do at the weekend, and where they go out in their neighborhood.
"It's about figuring out more about their personality at this stage, and that initial kind of chemistry—if you have that chemistry," Meier adds. "You often just have a few pictures to play off of."
Well, now you know.
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.co.uk. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.