You've been talking to each other for weeks, months, and even years. Whenever the other person doesn't show up, your friends immediately ask about him—like you're accountable for each other. The possibility of going official with him is almost within your reach. Almost. Until one day, he stops talking to you, stops responding to your messages, stops answering your calls—turning into a ghost and evaporating out of your life.
You're devastated and left with a thousand questions about where you went wrong. Until you realize that you have one choice left: To move on and get on with your life. So how do you do it? Where do you start when you weren't even officially together, when technically there was nothing between the two of you to break? Here are ways to get by:
Accept that it was a breakup.
You've never been official and were never really boyfriend-girlfriend, but he still left you on your own. That's a breakup. Breakups aren't exclusive to those who were actually in a relationship. Breakups include falling out in all types and kinds of relationships.
Allow yourself to be sad, but give yourself a deadline.
Go and wallow in your bed as much as you need. Cry until your eyes hurt, until there are no more tears left inside of you. But remember that after crying your heart out, you have to choose to be okay. You can't be miserable forever.
Stay offline for a little while.
Avoid saying cryptic things online and sharing all your bad vibrations to the world. We get it, you're sad. But that's not a good enough reason to rain on everyone else's parade. Learn to hold your own hand, pat yourself in the back, and eventually make yourself smile. This sadness is temporary, but the things you put online will be there forever (remember archives?).
Go out and have fun.
Party with your friends. Go to your favorite artist's gig. Watch a movie with your family. Cook a great meal for your siblings. The best way to find happiness is to see other people find theirs. Ask your loved ones what they want to do, and be there for them while they're doing it. Trust us, that will make you feel loads better.
This article originally appeared on Candymag.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.