10 Pinays On How They Owned Their 20s

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Your 20s can be an extremely stressful and daunting time. Think about it: So far, it’s the only point in your life that’s *truly* unplanned. And that’s when the universe swings hard. But success (or in some cases, survival) takes patience, grace, and perseverance—no matter what your demons are. You have to fight and work your butt off, even if you haven’t figured things out yet. Take it from these 10 Pinays:

“I always hear that women in their 30s and 40s aren’t as insecure as they were in their 20s. There’s a shift in how women see and treat their bodies…or maybe age just really makes you wiser? But the body positivity movement and self-love sped that process up for me. When I turned 25, I committed to starting each day by looking at my body and thanking it for everything it’s capable of doing. Girl, my thighs may be big, but they’ve helped me climb many mountains.” –Melissa, 28


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“I come from a big family; I have six siblings. And anyone with that many brothers and sisters can probably attest that it can get pretty competitive—even if it’s for something as simple as our parents’ attention. For some reason, it hit me the hardest as a kid, but I let go of that insecurity after I landed my first job at 21. I was successful and I was supporting myself. I didn’t need anyone’s approval or validation anymore, and I was damn proud of that.” –Karen, 26

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“We didn’t have much growing up. There were times when my parents skipped meals and told us they weren’t hungry. And it wasn’t until high school that I figured out it was because we didn’t have money to buy enough food for the entire family. That realization helped me understand the value of money and the importance of being financially literate. Pinagiisipan ko talaga lahat ng expenses ko at pinagaaralan ko kung paano alagaan 'yung savings ko. I’d like to think I owned my 20s by never falling into the trap of mindless spending and aimlessly following trends.” –Bianca, 30

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“Independence looks different for everyone, but for me, I didn’t consider myself ‘an adult’ until I moved out of the house. I was responsible for everything in my life and it taught me a lot about things I overlooked or took for granted. For example, I didn’t have the luxury of just coming home to clean clothes. It didn’t matter how tired I was after work—if I didn’t do my own laundry, wala akong gagamitin sa office! My 20s were all about learning how to be a ‘real’ adult and realizing how much of a baby I was before!” –Yasmine, 32


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“It’s such a millennial thing to say, but I plan my life around travel. Yes, I want a career, and I do have a full-time job, but if I’m being honest, I’m a corporate slave. It’s so easy for people to say, ‘Just quit your boring job and follow your heart,’ but I’m more realistic. So I make up for it by giving myself small rewards by traveling every month. It’s not the best case scenario, but I’m happy I’ve found the balance between work and play.” –Jenna, 24

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“I attended an all-girls school my entire life. It was a lot of DRAMA. It was so toxic. I decided to actively reject all drama and the petty people who created them. Harsh? Maybe, but I had to do it for my sanity. And I haven’t looked back since.” –Eunice, 26

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“The biggest thing I did for myself in my 20s is stop the pretenses. When you’re young, there’s this pressure to be cool or at least, to not care so much. But I got tired of pretending to like certain things just because they were in and of denying things I truly loved. It was the best decision I ever made because I found great people along the way who shared those interests.” –Rose, 25

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“I am all about being able to go anywhere I want, anytime I want—and that’s impossible when you have to share a car with the rest of the family. I bought my own car when I turned 24 and it was a game-changer! Plus, I felt like such an adult because apart from buying my first car, I learned all about the vehicle and studied up on insurance. At marunong akong magpalit ng sarili kong gulong!” –Clarisse, 27


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“College opened me up to so much—beliefs I wasn’t exposed to growing up, people I didn’t have anything in common with, and activities I was too scared to try. Because it felt wonderful and liberating, I try to be as open-minded and accepting as possible. I didn’t want college and everything I practiced there to just be a phase; I wanted it to be my lifestyle. Fear is normal, but I don’t let it stop me.” –Kat, 29

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“For as long as I can remember, I’ve always been on a diet. The comments I grew up with all revolved around my body, not my achievements. It took me a while to break away from that. In my 20s, I started working out for me. Every Pinay believes in cardio, but I fell in love with lifting weights instead. I got comments about how I’m going to eventually ‘look like a guy’ because my muscles are ‘too big,’ but I don’t care. I’m happy and that’s all that matters.” –Diane, 31

Own your 20s, CGs! Live it for yourself. 

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