Here’s a terrible universal truth: breakups are a bitch. But with a few tweaks to your post-breakup practices, you can speed up your recovery and soon be ready for romance again. Below, our tips.
1. Bawl. Like a baby.
Do it with your best friend beside you, with Adele wailing in the background, or with a bottle of vodka in your mouth. Crying is therapeutic and will help you get rid of those nasty nega feels.
2. Cut the ties that bind.
Don’t just delete his number—scrap him from your Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or any virtual network that connects him to you. You do not want to be drunk-dialing him in a moment of weakness, or seeing photo updates of him with some skinny chick on his arm. (The skank.)
3. Trash the relationship relics.
Do you really want that framed photo of you two cavorting on the beach on your anniversary taunting you every day? Or all those love notes and stuffed animals you’ve collected over the length of your relationship? (You might want to keep that pair of pumps he gave you for your birthday, though.)
4. Have your close friends on speed dial.
They will be there for you through 3a.m. reflections and accidental ex sightings, and when you feel like sending a long, tearful, I-want-you-back text, they’ll dutifully engage in a phone tug-of-war with you like the true friends they are.
5. Go on, let yourself wallow.
You hear a song you both love or remember a silly joke he once said, and the next thing you know, the waterworks are back on. Give yourself permission to mope, but only for a few minutes. Then snap out of it and get back to work, your laundry, or whatever you were doing before he interrupted your thoughts. Again.
6. Look fan-effin-tastic.
Try a new hairstyle, score some new makeup, get up off your ass and get in shape. Looking good despite the shitstorm that is your love life will help you feel in control, plus all those double-takes and wolf whistles will do wonders for your self-esteem.
7. Lay off on dating for a while.
Your well-meaning friends will try to set you up with every single male in sight, but don’t oblige thinking that you need a new love to get over an old one. Date when you’re emotionally ready, not because you’re longing for a Band-Aid solution to your loneliness.
8. Dare yourself to do new things.
Whether it’s traveling solo or taking up pole dancing, now’s the time to do the things you never got to do while coupled up. Taking on new experiences sans ex will help you see that you can live awesomely on your own.
9. Be a people person.
Make new friends, hear their stories, and realize that there’s a big, wonderful social circle outside of your relationship. Who knows? That guy you met with the great laugh might just turn out to be your next great love.