The media is an emotional minefield where one-dimensional and limiting portrayals of what it means to be a woman exist. This is dangerous because we start to believe that what we see in the media is the norm and that the most powerful thing about us is our appearance. We become socialized to see and treat ourselves as objects, which could potentially lead to higher rates of eating disorders, poorer self-esteem, and overall lower life satisfaction. Don’t get us wrong–there is nothing wrong with complimenting someone's looks, but it is also important to recognize all the other parts of her that might hold more value: her drive, her success, her intelligence.
So in an attempt to change the way we praise other women, here are some alternatives:
1. "More people should be listening to what you have to say."
2. "I’m happy I stayed alive long enough to meet you."
3. "Nawawala ang pagod ko kapag magkasama tayo."
4. "You’re the kind of person who could make Kanye smile."
5. This scene from The Help:
6. "You give me the kind of advice I always need to hear, even if I don’t want to hear it."
7. "Nakakahawa ang tawa mo."
8. "If something bad happened to you, I would delete your browser history for you."
9. "You are not of less value as a size XL than a size XS."
10. Take it from Dr. Cristina Yang:
12. "Bilib talaga ako sayo."
13. "You are great at keeping secrets."
14. "If we were in the Hunger Games, I'd kill you last."
15. "Masaya ako kapag kasama kita."
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