3 Ways To Get Hotter Kisses

Is your guy lackluster in the lip-locking department? Check out these Cosmo tips to smooth out his smooching skills.

The only thing worse than a kiss that fails to make your toes curl? One that turns you off completely. “Compatible kissing is important because it’s how partners communicate intimacy,” says William Cane, author of The Art of Kissing. “It’s also romantic, which keeps a relationship alive.” Don’t worry: Your kiss connection isn’t doomed. “Men are motivated to be better kissers,” says J. Galen Buckwalter, PhD, vice president of research and development at eharmony.com. “You just have to know how to teach them.” These tips will help your guy become the kind of kisser that makes you melt.  

1. Stop A Sorry Lip-Lock

Your man can’t rehab his smooching style if he doesn’t know he’s missing the mark. However, the last thing you want to do is diss his kiss—that’ll crush his ego. “Instead of telling him what he’s doing wrong, show him how to do it right,” says Shelley Hess, author of Pucker Power: Great Kissers Make Great Lovers. But first, you need to put on the brakes. “Stop the kiss, but not the affection,” suggests Hess. Simply pull your face away midkiss and nibble his neck, lick his ear, or suck on his lip. That will subtly send the message that his mouth maneuvers aren’t cutting it.

2. Let Him Read Your Lips

Once you return to makeout mode, demo the way you like to smooch. If he rams his tongue down your throat, pull back slightly, then gently kiss his lips with a barely open mouth. Even though he won’t have access to your tonsils, this closed-mouth peck can be just as exhilarating. “Lips have more nerve endings than tongues do,” says Hess. For the opposite dilemma—his tongue sits in your mouth like a slug—keep twirling your tongue around his or run it over the front of his top teeth to show that you’re looking for variety. When he begins to mirror you, treat him to some positive feedback (moaning works!) to ensure that he learns the new rhythm.

3. Set The Mood

Sometimes it’s not about bad kissing; it’s just about the kind of kissing you’re after at a given moment. Feeling playful? “Start with tiny kisses on his lips, keeping your bodies apart,” says Hess. But lean back when he tries to slip you some tongue. This coy ploy will tease him into a frenzy. “It shows friskiness and also prevents the encounter from becoming overly serious,” says Cane.

If you crave a slow, sensual makeout session, gaze into his eyes as you cup his chin and guide him toward you. Keep your kisses soft and sweet…at first. “Men consider little pecks on their cheeks, eyes, and foreheads romantic,” says Cane. As the passion builds, caress his tongue with yours as you run your fingers up and down his bod.

When you’re fired up for a “take me now” lip-lock, press your lips together—tight. Then place your hands on his buns and pull his pelvis closer. Biting and sucking each other’s lips “boosts blood flow, making them more sensitive,” says Cane. No doubt, by this point, your man will have gotten your message.

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