When you’re in a relationship, you should always be completely open and honest with your partner. You shouldn’t hold back just because you’re scared of how he will react to what you’re going to say. The trick? Do it in a calm and rational way. Don’t attack him with a sudden outburst because that will only push him away even further. It will also make you look like a clingy girlfriend. Everything in moderation, CGs.
Here are a few tips on how to say these things to your boyfriend without freaking him out:
1. That you miss him
Most guys aren't comfortable with expressing their feelings vocally. He may not say the words "I miss you" as much as you do, but that doesn't mean you're not constantly on his mind. If you miss him, tell him. Don't stop yourself just because he's not saying it first.
2. That you’re jealous (without accusing him of cheating)
It's natural to feel jealous once in a while. If there is someone in your BF's life who is making you feel uncomfortable, like a flirty officemate or touchy female friend, let him know. As his girlfriend, you have the right to be bothered. But if he says you have nothing to worry about, believe him. Trust him enough to know he's telling you the truth.
3. That you need space
We all need time alone. If your guy is the type who constantly texts you 24/7 and demands to know where you are and who you're with all the time, it might be time to have the talk. Not the break up talk; the "I need space" talk. Checking up on each other is fine; keeping tabs on your every movement is not.
4. That you need love and affection
PDA isn't for everyone, but sometimes you just need it. Don't try to change your man, but do voice it out to him that you need him to show it more often. We're not saying go on an all-out makeout session in front of all your friends. Tell him that even just the little things like holding hands, quick hugs, and surprise kisses are appreciated.
5. That you love him (even if he hasn’t said it to you yet)
Don't be fooled by stereotypes. The guy doesn't have to say "I love you" first, the same way he doesn't have to be the one to ask you out first or make the first move. We're living in the 21st cenutry, ladies! If you're in love with him, tell him. You never know, maybe he's just too torpe to say it first or he's too scared you won't say it back.
6. That he’s not the center of your world
You have a life outside of your relationship. Don't get stuck inside your little love bubble and cut all ties with the rest of the world. Don't be scared to tell your man that there are still so many things you want to do both with and without him. Travel, try new things, and figure out who you really are.