7-year itch? Here are some deal breakers that could help you figure out if you’re headed to splitsville or happily ever after.
1. You hinder each other’s growth
Is your love keeping you from doing what’s best for each other? Is your relationship more of a distraction? Remember: relationships exist so you can be your best self, not hinder each other's personal growth.
2. Differences in goals and values
As you get older, sharing common goals and values is important. If you can’t negotiate and make compromises, it might be best to end it before you find yourself in too deep.
3. Once a cheater, always a cheater
If your man can’t keep it in his pants, do yourself a favor and dump the sucker. The last thing you need is someone who fills your mind with self-doubt or makes you feel like you're not good enough. What’s the point of staying in a relationship with someone you can’t trust?
4. Lack of physical intimacy
Chemistry and intimacy matter. If your relationship is running dry—literally and figuratively—in these departments, maybe its time to initiate "the talk."
5. He’s a pathological liar.
After being together for years, you’ll learn that women’s intuition is often right. Small lies like, "I can’t visit you today because my car is coding" (when he’s really just at home playing 2k14) can lead to bigger lies like, "Just playing ball with the boys" (when he’s actually watching a movie with another girl). You deserve someone you can trust for both the small and big things. If he thinks he can get away with stuff all the time, he’ll never stop lying.
6. Trouble communicating with each other
You deal with rough patches differently. While you're more vocal and open about dealing with your problems, he would rather avoid it at all costs, even if it means avoiding you completely. At this point in your LTR, you two should be comfortable enough to make the relationship a shared experience, not a guessing game.
7. You’re nobody without him.
While it’s great to have someone you share this wonderful life with, your life is still yours. Always remember to leave something for yourself. Don’t let your relationship eclipse your own identity. Be brave enough to step out of his shadows and be your own sun.