Some truths about men are self-evident: They like blow jobs and tambay sessions and consider themselves great with directions. Then there are the "truths" that are total BS.
1. Myth: Men want to do the chasing.
Truth: Call it The Clooney Effect, but men today are into self-assured educated women (more Amal than Marilyn). According to Match.com's Singles in America survey, which polled more than 5,600 men and women about love and sex, 90 percent of guys report being okay with a woman asking them out. (And good, because, seriously? It is 2015.)
2. Myth: Men just want no-strings-attached sex.
Truth: Not all men want no-strings-attached sex, and even those who do don't necessarily just want that. "Like many other personality traits–for example, extraversion–interest in casual sex varies widely among both men and women," says sex research Zhana Vrangalova, PhD. "Some men aren't interested in it at all. Some are interested in it during certain points in their lives." The important thing to remember is that just because a person is into casual sex does not mean he or she isn't interested in love and relationships. One doesn't preclude the other, and it's very possible to want both.
3. Myth: Men don't have a biological clock.
Truth: "Both sexes form pair bonds, both fall in love, both want to have children–especially before age 40–and both want to raise them," explains biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, PhD. "Men are just as eager to do so as women."
4. Myth: Big feet equals big penis.
Truth: Sadly, there is absolutely no scientific proof that shoe size (or hand size or nose size) is a reliable indicator of what he's packing. "I believe these are all urban legends," says Stephen Snyder, MD, a sex therapist in NYC.
5. Myth: Men are commitment-phobes.
Truth: Not so, says Fisher, coauthor of the Singles in America study. "Men want to introduce a partner to friends and family sooner than women do, they like public affection more, and they want to move in sooner." Slow your roll, guys! There's a crazy-cool biological reason for this. Because women are the "custodian of the egg" (a.k.a. we get pregnant), it's adaptive for men to fall in love faster and get a woman off the market before the next guy does. So why does society portray men as commitment-phobes? Some blame it on men being hardwired to spread their seed, but really, "it depends on where he is in live," says Andrea Syrtash, author of He's Just Not Your Type (and That's a Good Thing). If a dude's being flaky, it might mean that he doesn't want commitment at the time or … with you. (The fool!) Realizing that can sting, but "ultimately, we need to remember that we should never have to convince another person of our value," says Syrtash.
6. Myth: Men can't fake orgasms.
Truth: You thought we were the only ones capable of pulling a Meg Ryan? Nope. Guys can do it too. (It's obviously easier to fake it when wearing a condom.) Because of the prevailing myth that men always orgasm, the pressure to perform accordingly can be "pretty intense," explains Dr. Snyder.
7. Myth: It's always easy for all men to orgasm during sex.
Truth: Not only can men struggle with orgasm, there's even a nice euphemistic name for it: DE (delayed ejaculation). "Some men just have a higher threshold for orgasm," says Dr. Snyder. But while ladies are blessed with multiple ways to get off during sex, men can't exactly give themselves a hand while inside you–tough break, considering the most sensitive part of the penis is near the tip. What many women don't know is that DE (and other forms of erectile disfunction, or ED, which can be caused by antidepressants, stress, and alcohol) can affect young men. A 2013 study found 26 percent of men with ED are under 40. "My office is full of them," Dr. Snyder confirms.
8. Myth: Men think about sex every seven seconds.
Truth: Thinking about sex every seven seconds–that's more than 8,000 times a day!–would make men not only sex-obsessed, but, like, pretty severely impaired. Luckily for us (and human kind?), the truth is much more moderate. Younger men, predictably, think about it a little more. A 2011 study of men ages 18 to 25 recorded almost 19 times a day. Which is still way, way less than 8,000. (Whew!)
3 "myths" that are actually true:
1. Guys don't tell their friends everything. It's a competitive sex market out there, so if a guy finds something he likes (you!) it's in his evolutionary best interest not to tell his competition about it, Fisher confirms.
2. They like blow jobs. Ninety percent of men like blow jobs at least "somewhat" and about 50 percent of them like them very much, studies have found. (Hello, understatement of the year.)
3. Guys are visual. Studies prove that men are aroused by visual stimuli more than women are. Experts cite a mix of sociological and evolutionary influences, but it helps explain their love of porn.
This article appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.