Ah, the "nice guy." You know, the one was says you're "not like other girls" and pretends to be so caring and chill (but then immediately goes into bellend mode when you reject him). Admittedly, some guys are quite nice. But "nice guys" in quote marks are the ones who act super nice, but beneath the surface are complete assholes. Here, women who dated "nice guys" share their worst experiences. And yeah, they'll make you rage.
"He 'couldn't understand' why girls didn't want to date him."
"Just over two years ago, I met a guy at a party. He seemed really nice. Smart. Slightly self-deprecating. So I decided to give him a chance. I went on a date with him, and he spent a good portion of the date complaining about how single he was, and how he couldn't understand why girls didn't want to date him. I decided it wasn't a good fit and politely broke it off after the date ended.
"He then proceeded to basically stalk me for almost a year. Sent me tons of texts begging me to go out again. Left lengthy voicemails professing his love for me, and even would show up unannounced at my work to see me. After I confronted him a number of times, asking him to leave me alone, he finally got it and hasn't bothered me in months."[via]
"He called me 'shallow' for not going out with him."
"This one dude managed to get my number when I was drunk. Next day, he started messaging me, asking if he could come over. I just really didn't know what to say since I regretted giving him my number and was honestly busy, so I didn't reply to him. He kept sending messages for hours, and tried calling me from different numbers. I told him I couldn't talk to him right then, and wasn't interested in him anyway. He then told me that it was unfair of me to not give him a chance since I was single too, and I would have to give him a real reason to stop harassing me (lol he actually used the word harass).
"He ranted how he never had a girlfriend, no one gives him a chance, and then went on to say I only want some rich 'brown nose' guy. I was also shallow just like all the other women, he wished that no guy would approach me ever again, and I broke his heart. I still see him sometimes but just ignore him." [via]
"I rejected him and he called me a 'bitch.'"
"Went on a date with him to a museum. He complained about the art the whole time, then complained about the food at lunch. We then went to the park and he complained about that. Then at the end, I went to say goodbye, and he kissed me unexpectedly. When I told him that I didn't think we were a good fit, but I appreciated him taking the time to test the waters with me, he proceeded to scream at me and tell me I was a bitch and curse at me. He followed this up with a full week worth of constant cursing through social media and texts, until I blocked him everywhere. He then sent me a candle through the [post]." [via]
"Apparently, it was my fault he was so 'heartless.'"
"I went to a party with a guy who bragged about sleeping with over 60 women in the [car] there. Within 30 minutes of arriving, he got drunk and naked, his ex-girlfriend [turned up] and he knew she was coming, I did not. He then got dressed, and made her cry by talking about how awful the sex with her was. I left and stopped responding to his texts/calls. A couple of months later, he sent me a message about how being ghosted like this was why he became so heartless. He said he would have been amazing to me, and I didn't deserve to be with him, and I would have to work to regain his trust." [via]
"He turned out to be a faux male feminist."
"A guy I went on a few dates with me kept volunteering that he's 'not like other guys' (not even in response to anything I had said), and talked about how most men are chauvinistic, etc. Should have been the first alarm bell. He also complained about how the issue of sexism at his work came up because he got promoted over a female candidate, and how stupid that was because the panel that promoted him had women on it. I should have run screaming for the hills by this stage.
"Then on our last date, I invited him to some drinks my friend was having. Feminism came up as a subject in a conversation he and I were having with two other women there. He pulled some statistics about women being underpaid, and was clearly giving himself a mental pat on the back for his contribution to the conversation. An hour later, after we had left, he then referred to one of the women we were talking to as a 'cunt' for her strong views. I got angry at him for this slur, he said he was joking and shouldn't have to prove what a decent person he is. The next day, he texted and told me he never again will defend his integrity, and also told me that if I was one of his workmates, he would have just 'told me to fuck off.'" [via]
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.