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Finding Your Soulmate: The 4 Types Of Men To Look For

Experts say that to truly connect with a guy, you need to suss out his personality type. Read on for ways to spot and snag the four most common kinds of dudes.

Finally, those brainiacs in the scientific world have hit on something really earth-shattering (and we don't mean global warming). We're talking about personality typing. "Almost every man falls into one of four categories," says Paul Dobransky, MD, author of The Secret Psychology Of How We Fall In Love. Reasons for the differences range from hormones to psychology, and knowing the types gives insight into a guy's dating MO.

We had Dr. Dobransky, founder of kwml.com, and anthropologist Helen Fisher, PhD, chief scientific adviser for chemistry.com, break down each type. Use this info to analyze guys, have more fun with yours, and even reach soulmate status.

1. The Rock: He's organized and sexy--like his smart phone.

Typical interests:
Organized groups (like a badminton club), gadgets, and non-fiction books.

When he's stressed:
He analyzes the situation and makes lists and plans.

He lights up if you say:
"I could really use your advice on something."

He's right for you if:
- You want your boyfriend to be a supportive, steadfast partner who shares your sensible approach to life and is smart enough to get your sometimes-quirky side without judging.
- You're turned on by witty, intelligent conversation and gifts that show the affection he's not so great at verbalizing.
- You deal with problems by talking about them rationally. This guy's always game for reasoned debates, but drama queens will lose big time—emotional outbursts freak him out.

His favorite dates:
He feels most energized when he's engaging his mind, so try watching a documentary, checking out an interesting exhibit, or taking a class together, such as sushi-making.

Relationship requirements:
This dedicated dude gets totally absorbed in his interests. If you don't even ask about them ("How was your diving trip?"), he'll feel like you don't get him. He's also tuned in to social etiquette, so gaffes (like bailing on plans) turn him off.

In the sack:
He's normally the calm, collected one. Blindfold him and tease him with different touches so he learns how hot it can be to give up control.

What he seeks in a soulmate:
To really trust you, he has to know that you respect his cerebral nature. Help coax out his playful side with plans he'd never make on his own and he'll see you as the total package.

2. The Doer: He's not just a team player, he's captain.

Typical interests:
Sports (playing and watching), barbecuing, and building things.

When he's stressed:
He dives in and deals with the cause, whether it means extra hours at work or a showdown.

He lights up if you say:
"Is there anything you can't make happen?"

He's right for you if:
- You want your boyfriend to be the classic male archetype—a protective, take-charge dude who doesn't yap about his feelings but lets his guard down when alone with you.
- You're turned on by grand gestures, like spontaneous PDAs, and manly deeds, like changing your car's oil.
- You deal with problems directly without any passive-aggressive BS. He's quick to confront conflict. If you are, too, your issues will disappear once you hash them out.

His favorite dates:
His heart beats faster (figuratively and literally) when he's active. Suggest a bike ride or a boxing class followed by drinks.

Relationship requirements:
This on-the-go guy needs solo time to recharge and will feel smothered if you're clingy. You'll need a thick skin, because he doesn't sugarcoat things...ever.

In the sack:
For the charge-hard man, getting busy is a release valve. Greet him at the door in racy getup, and ravage him with kisses. He'll carry you to the bed for some nooky.

What he seeks in a soulmate:
His He-man side needs you to appreciate his efforts to lead. But, under his strong, silent exterior, he's a super-loyal softie. He feels complete when you can talk about the feelings that he internalizes.

3. The Thrill-Chaser: Look for him at center stage.

Typical interests:
Outdoor activities (like mountain climbing), foreign travel, parties, and crowds.

When he's stressed:
He distracts himself with something amusing, like watching the game or organizing a social outing.

He lights up if you say:
"Oh, you have a fascinating story about that—c'mon, tell everyone."

He's right for you if:
- You want your boyfriend to be a whirlwind of personality who can liven things up, make you laugh, get you out of your head, and keep you guessing...in a good way.
- You're turned on by unpredictable, exciting plans.
- You deal with problems in a casual, non-confrontational way. Mr. Conflict Avoidance hates when you're unhappy with him and will deflect attention unless you tackle the issue.

His favorite dates:
This class clown loves being around new people—think videoke night or a charity poker event. He's also thrilled by new accomplishments, like scaling a rock wall at the gym.

Relationship requirements:
He needs a laissez-faire chick who won't try to rein in his inner wild child. He's willing to share the spotlight, just not all of it.

In the sack:
His spontaneous style extends to his sex life. Prove you value excitement, too, by waking him up for a middle-of-the-night sack session.

What he seeks in a soulmate:
The ultimate people-person bonds best with an ever-evolving woman who can match his lust for new experiences. He craves independence yet still needs to know he's important to you, so being secure enough to show you care is a must.

4. The Sweetheart: He tries to see everything from a new angle.

Typical interests:
Music, cooking dinner for friends, and reading literature.

When he's stressed:
He talks about it with confidants until he finds a solution.

He lights up if you say:
"I never would have noticed that. You're so observant!"

He's right for you if:
- You want your boyfriend to be a guy who truly listens, understands your girly side, and can talk about feelings.
- You're turned on by sweet, movie-worthy romance, like slow kisses and crazy-great compliments.
- You deal with problems by honestly addressing them and taking emotions into consideration. He's a philosopher at heart, and even if you two don't agree in the end, you'll learn tons about each other during your in-depth discussions.

His favorite dates:
Atmosphere matters to this sensualist, so find a spot with a romantic vibe (try a botanical garden or outdoor jazz concert) for the real highlight: your ever-intensifying one-on-one bond.

Relationship requirements:
This nurturer tries to get to know everyone he meets on a deeper level...which can be rough if you're the jealous type. Also, he's so into connecting that he'll feel dissed if you don't share your problems.

In the sack:
The closer he feels to you, the hotter it gets him. For an especially intimate treat, seduce him in the morning, when sunlight offers him a full view of you, and make eye contact mid-act.

What he seeks in a soulmate:
This idealist falls when he knows you value communication too. Because he tends to ruminate, you'll enhance his life by being decisive yourself.


Now that you've read about the four common dating personality types, we want to know: Which type of guy are you looking for?

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