A (non-fuccboi) guy friend once told me that he’s frustrated by all the profiles he sees on Tinder because women feel the need to include a height requirement. His exact words were, “It’s like females banded together and collectively agreed to tell short men to fuck off.” And I totally understand where he’s coming from. Think about it: We want men to accept us as we are, but we immediately rule out men who aren’t “tall” as undateable? They can’t all be basketball players, ladies.
As a society, we still cringe or scoff whenever we see a couple who doesn’t fit the mold—a skinny guy with a plus-size girl or a tall woman with a short man, among others.
Model Essie addressed this issue in an Instagram post that’s got the Internet talking. She wrote, “There is nothing inherently ‘manly’ about being strong. There is also nothing inherently ‘unfeminine’ about being bigger, taller, or [more muscular] than a man. My whole life, I have dated men who are thinner than me and when I was younger, that used to get to me. I thought that it made me less of a girl to have bigger thighs than my boyfriend. Honestly, this is a fallacy. Men don’t need to be bulky/tall and women don’t need to be small.”
And she’s right! Why do we put so many restrictions on love? Essie continued, “How we feel about ourselves should also not be based on who we are dating or [on other] bullshit ideals about how men and women are supposed to look.” In other words, keep doing you, and fuck the rest.
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