Let us start by saying two very important things: 1) Sex is healthy and 2) Wanting to have sex is perfectly normal. That said, let's talk about one-night stands. Whenever someone has a one-night stand, the consenting parties usually let each other know what the real deal is to manage expectations. Sometimes, it works, and sometimes, things get a little complicated.
Because even if you agree on the terms, sex is never as simple as you want it to be. No matter how hard you tell yourself not to, you might end up feeling attached.
Yes, even if you know that the guy lying next to you isn't The One—isn't even close to being your ideal man—you might think, "Will I ever have this with anyone else?" The sex wasn't even that great, so what the hell is going on?
Sexologist Tanya Bass told Elite Daily, "It can be very common to feel attachment to someone after sex, since the brain releases oxytocin during arousal, stimulation of the genitals and nipples, during intercourse or orgasm. The release of this hormone after being physically intimate may cause a feeling of attachment and closeness." Oxytocin is the hormone responsible for all the *good* feelings in your life—including love.
Since your brain releases this hormone while you're taking care of business, you're essentially being tricked into feeling like you've fallen in love with the guy who low-key cracked a racist joke just an hour ago. Bass also reveals that oxytocin is "found more abundantly in [women.]" Yeah, that's the reason why you're having all those confusing thoughts while he's putting his shirt back on and booking a Grab.
And if, by some miracle, he actually made you come, that means your lateral orbitofrontal cortex shut down momentarily, making that orgasm a double-edged sword because that part of your brain is the voice of reason.
So the next time you sleep with someone na pa-fall, just keep these things in mind para 'di ka mabudol.
Source: Elite Daily
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