We all know relationships are ever-changing. While you may have been ripping each other's pants off and having sex five times a day at the beginning, work/general life stresses can get in the way once you're more comfortable with each other. Don't worry, you're not alone. This happens to pretty much everyone at some point in their lives, and it's really easy to get back on track.
Jo Nicholl, psychologist and relationship counsellor , says there are eight ways to inject the sex back into your relationship.
1. Be unpredictable
The unpredictable is sexy. Your sex life has more than likely flatlined because you've become over familiar and got into a routine that has no time for your relationship. You're probably putting most of your energy into to work or family or friends; your relationship probably gets a tired glance at the end of the day.
2. Dedicate time to your relationship
Your sex life would thrive, as would your relationship, if you gave it even half the amount of creative energy you give to work/home/family. Relationships need nurturing and attention…. and if you dedicate time to it, you'll see a pay off. Your relationship is a part of your life that is precious, important and therefore needing your special attention and care.
3. Plan to have sex
Sex doesn't just happen in a relationship, and sexual desire does not always come "naturally." You need to be creative. Novelty is sexy. You could plan to have sex before you go out in the evening as after coming home tired, having had too much to drink/eat, you're probably not going to feel like having sex.
4. Be adventurous
Your sex life will thrive on the unexpected. Remember what it was that turned you on when you were dating? The unfamiliar? Trying new things? Being adventurous is sexy, so come up with fresh ideas for date nights. Make the time for your relationship, and the sex will follow.
Do you usually only communicate via text about the stuff that needs doing, plans that need coordinating, info about home/friends etc? Then try something fresh and different. Send a flirty/sexy message when you're sitting next to each other.
6. Be confident
There's nothing sexier than confidence. Giving the best of yourself, showing that you like yourself, and wearing clothes that make you feel great about yourself will all make you exude confidence. Also remember that having a naughty, mischievous side is a turn on.
7. Use suggestive language
Suggestive language will awaken desire and curiosity in your partner.
8. Show you appreciate your partner
Showing appreciation and gratitude to your partner really works. We all need to feel seen and appreciated. So start that ball rolling, and it may roll you back into having the sex-filled relationship you've been missing.
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com/uk. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.