By now, you’ve likely heard of big-dick energy—the viral catchphrase for the undeniable air of confidence that some guys seem to exude. The theory being, well-endowed dudes have a little extra swagger.
Women can project a similarly confident vibe—although obvi, it has nothing to do with a particular body part. It’s just about the energy that comes with being happy and totally self-assured. And when you’re single, that can be insanely magnetic. Like a taxi cab with its light on, this silent signal announces to the world that you’re cool just cruising around on your own but also available. Well, Cosmo is putting a name to that powerful allure: single-babe energy (SBE for short).
Emitting SBE can cause a noticeable shift in your dating life. Suddenly, you may get more compliments and be asked out often. Who doesn’t want that? We sought out an array of “energy experts”—from astrologers to body-language pros to psychics—to suss out what SBE means to them and how you can emanate it.
Letting your pheromones be your fragrance.
Go perfume-free. Your natural scent conveys key clues to your lifestyle, says Tega Brain, founder of Smell Dating. And according to an OKCupid survey, 81 percent of singles find a partner’s smell important.
Realizing you deserve your own happiness.
When making everyday decisions, embrace your own know-how and go with your gut. This tells those around you that you don’t need external validation, which can be alluring, says Jenny Taitz, PsyD, author of How to be Single and Happy.
Cultivating social confidence.
“Do something that allows you to ‘peacock,’” says evolutionary biologist Justin Garcia, PhD, of the Kinsey Institute. In other words, ID what you’re good at, then show off your talent. Garcia’s studies have found that both men and women find this romantically and sexually attractive.
Acting as if you hold the secret to a special kind of magic.
Use your star sign’s unique qualities. Aries, Leos, and Sagittariuses can boldly buy a hottie a drink, says Claire Comstock-Gay, aka Madame Clairevoyant. Tauruses, Virgos, and Capricorns can sleep on silk sheets to boost sensuality. Geminis, Libras, and Aquariuses can work their charm. Cancers, Scorpios, and Pisces can be more mysterious.
Making people feel important.
When you’re interested in someone, use physical cues to signal that you’d like to connect with them on a deeper level, says Traci Brown, author of Persuasion Point. Think: a light touch at the right moment or mirroring their gestures.
Putting yourself out there.
Sprinkle your iCal with three or four social activities a week, suggests Nicole Prause, PhD, founder of sexual biotech company Liberos. This will keep you active and nix any downer vibes. And yes, these outings can include dates. Having an active dating life makes women less self-conscious, says Prause, which can help you emit more come-hither vibes.
Developing a crush.
Remember in middle school when you’d list all the *dreamy* things about your crush? Spiritual teacher MaryAnn DiMarco, author of Believe, Ask, Act, suggests resurrecting the habit but listing all the things you love about yourself (you’re a great cook, a ride-or-die friend, etc.). Then note a few flaws too. Acknowledging and accepting these qualities will help you own them all—and others will notice.
This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.