Picking a bar right next to his place.
If you're traveling more than 30 minutes to this supposed hidden gem of a bar, it better be somewhere legitimately great and not just the closest pub near their place (which he insists on going to after two drinks).
Not having a backup plan for the date HE suggested.
His go-to dive bar is packed tonight, but he has no idea what else is around here. Nothing ups the awkwardness between two strangers like walking aimlessly in hot, 30-degree weather trying to find a new spot.
Wearing a sando.
No one's asking for an ironed button-down, but would a nice T-shirt or sweater hurt him? Your lola would faint if she saw a guy seriously take you out while wearing an old tank top.
Being 15+ minutes late.
Not asking any questions.
Yes, everyone gets nervous and wants to naturally impress their date. But that still shouldn't mean he brags about the cold brew machine in his start-up office for half an hour without ever asking you what you do for work.
Not having anything to say at all.
Running through his list of obligatory questions ("What do you do for fun?" being the ABSOLUTE WORST) and not reacting to what you actually say makes it obvious that he probably goes on three Tinder dates a week. If he's burned out, he should take a break. Or just learn how to listen to people? Idk.
Watching the TV behind you.
The giveaway will be his stifled reaction when his team misses an easy shot.
Emotionally manipulating you.
He says a backhanded compliment and immediately follows it with "just teasing!." But he's not your bestie; he's just a dick trying to make you insecure enough to sleep with him (and it won't work!).
Shit-talking his ex (or other women in general).
While briefly mentioning your ex isn't a bad thing, no self-confident woman is going to be into a guy who's ranting about how his ex was a vain liar and how every woman he's ever dated is ice cold. That belongs in therapy, not a first date.
Freaking out about how much you owe him for your drink.
There's nothing wrong with splitting the bill, but him immediately whipping out his phone so he can calculate exactly how much you owe him makes you envision a future of stressful brunches where he throws a mini-fit over paying extra for someone's meal. He should just relax and ask you to get the next round if he's so inclined.
Bringing up politics and asking you to "educate" him.
Look, I get that he somehow has no female friends or ability to use Google, but asking you to explain the sexual harassment stories to him (only so he can argue against everything you say) is a surefire way to make you bounce early.
Kissing you at the first possible opportunity and completely out of nowhere.
I swear, every man who tries to kiss a woman 20 minutes into a date ALWAYS uses too much tongue. It's never gentle and sweet because there is nothing romantic about clearly pre-planning the "spontaneous" first smooch.
Or showing up already drunk.
Leaving his Tinder notifications open.
Even if he met you on an app, it doesn't mean he should make it obvious that yes, he's still swiping. The least he can do is keep his phone off the table so you don't see the "super-like" alert he just got.
Intensely hinting that he wants to come up.
Dropping you off at your home if you're into that—great! Lingering and putting pressure on you to invite him upstairs—desperate and genuinely so, so lame.
Following the three-day rule for texting.
This made sense in the days of landlines, but deliberately not shooting a text for three days makes him come off like the type of guy who goes randomly MIA all the time. All he needs to do is text when he wants to and tell you that he wants to see you again. It's that simple.
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This article originally appeared on Cosmopolitan.com. Minor edits have been made by the Cosmo.ph editors.