It's time to rethink your checklist. You know which one we're talking about—that list that says your future boyfriend has to be tall, rich, successful, and handsome. On top of that, he has to have graduated from one of the top three schools. And there's no way you're dating someone who isn't making at least six figures. He can't have tattoos. He can't have piercings. He has to be good in sports. He has to have a nice car. The list goes on.
Look, we get it. You're just trying to find someone perfect. And it's within your right to have certain standards and to want someone whose life complements your own. But we all know that dating is hard AF and if you haven't found someone yet, maybe the reason for that is your "type" could be what you want but isn't what you need. Here's why we think you should consider dating someone who isn't your type:
1. It will get you out of your comfort zone.
As with anything else in life, when you're forced to face something new, you have to think of fresh ways to approach it. Dating someone whose demeanor or character isn't something you're fluent in can not only be refreshing, but also exciting! It'll keep you on your toes.
2. It will make you more open-minded.
When you meet someone who isn't your type, you won't be distracted by making sure he or she checks every box on your list. That person will open you up to qualities you've probably dismissed, overlooked, or even rejected. That kind of open-mindedness can benefit other parts of your life.
3. It will make you less superficial.
The truth is, having a type can make you reaaaallllyyyyy judgy. Refusing to date someone who doesn't have the same music taste is honestly incredibly stupid. Compatibility, trust, respect—these should weigh more!
4. It will widen your social circle.
Dating someone who operates in a completely different social group and on an unfamiliar social code can introduce you to people you would have never met otherwise! And that can be a great thing!
5. It will yank you out of a dating rut.
Remember that scene in the first Sex and The City movie, right after Big was a no-show at his own wedding and Carrie said, "Maybe you're only allotted a certain amount of tears per man and I've used mine up." Having a type and essentially dating the same guy over and over again can be emotionally taxing. It might be time to edit that checklist, CG.
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