One of the best things about being a Cosmo girl is discovering your innate potential to make it big--be it in business or whatever it is you put your heart into. However, one of the downsides to becoming a successful female in a stereotypically male-dominated world is unknowingly emasculating or intimidating the men you love with your accomplishments.
But, that's not the case with Borgy Manotoc! This model, entrepreneur, and owner of fashion cult store Bunker is a certified Cosmo hottie who knows how to take (and celebrate) his woman's success.
You may also know him as Cosmo cover girl Georgina Wilson's better half! The very private and mysterious Borgy chatted exclusively with Cosmo about what makes a woman "fierce," his take on whether or not chivalry is dead, and what he really thinks about women who are more successful than their partners.
What for you defines a fierce, confident woman?
For me, I couple "fierce" with something that has the element of surprise in it. You know, there are a lot of glamorous and very confident women out there, but I personally prefer confident women that have a bit of wit, a little comedy, and some sarcasm.
So you don't want someone who's too predictable?
Exactly! It should be something that really throws me off. Where [it's like] she's all high maintenance, looks perfect to a tee, and dresses all crazy, but at the same time, she'll just sit with you on the floor and have a beer with you!
So you like a girl who's a cowboy, then? A glamorous cowboy!
Now, how sexy is that? (Laughs.)
Women often mistake being fierce for being skanky or promiscuous. What is your take on these types of aggressive women?
I think it's important to know what you want and to obviously take the steps in order to go in that direction. But, at the same time, I think women have to play it with a degree of class, you know? Bottom line, women are the finer sex so you don't have to do much. Just put yourself out there to let them know you're available, but you don't need to do all the chasing! There's certainly no need to be [like] that just to be considered "hot."
What do you think about situations where a woman's independence and career success cause the man to feel emasculated?
That's actually a really perfect question for me right now because I'm dating a woman who is earning so much more money than me! (Laughs.) She is so much more [put] together [than me] and is the quintessential independent woman. I love it, and I think it's very important.
Is it very humbling for you?
Well, yes, but at the same time, it really makes me appreciate that we have our life together and yet we still have our own independent lives.
Unfortunately, there are lots of emasculated guys out there who tend to cope with their insecurity by cheating on their partners. So, what advice can you give women who are in that situation or may find themselves going down that road? Should they downplay their success?
No way, I don't think so! They should just find a better man! If you don't have a guy who can handle a woman who is independent and successful, then you should find somebody else.
So you are pro-independent women?
Yes, of course. I have always had strong, independent women in my life--from my mother (Gov. Imee Marcos) to my grandma (former First Lady Imelda Marcos). Now, that for me is the figure of the modern woman. So you should never downplay anything because that's who you are and [what] you've fought so hard to become.
Do you think chivalry is dead?
Hmmm, well, I think it's dead in the conventional way of being chivalrous, because these days, it's done in modern ways, like via Facebook and Twitter. (Laughs.) But I think there are still men out there [who] pursue their women traditionally. I mean, I see it until now!
Would you still want to do that--conventional, romantic gestures?
Well, now that everyone thinks that chivalry is dead, when it's brought out every once in a while, it's really appreciated. Even something as simple as flowers, just out of the blue. I mean, come on, it's easy! The problem is [that] people think it has to be all these grand gestures or expensive things. Chivalry can be just the thought [you express] when you show or tell a person how much you care for them, in a moment when you didn't need to.