The key to getting what you want in bed is letting your partner know what excites you. Moans and groans are the ultimate affirmation...plus, guys think it's hot.
Carnal confidence is sexy, so don't be afraid to work your bod. Besides, you can't focus on the good feelings if you're worrying about how you look.
Guys get off on visual stimulation, as in he wants to see everything. That's hard to do when it's dark.
Source: Lou Paget, author of The Great Lover Playbook