We cornered some of the leading sexperts in the industry and asked them to divulge the new naughty, naughty things more and more people are sampling in the sack. The following five carnal crazes they turned us on to aren’t fads that will phase out faster than jelly bracelets; they’re brilliant mattress moves every hot-blooded woman must add to her randy lineup.
TREND 1: Do It In Double Digits
No doubt, you’re intimately acquainted with 69. Now may we introduce you to (drumroll, please)...77. Sex expert Cynthia Gentry, author of The Bedside Orgasm Book, clued us in to this frisky number. “The name 77 refers to the way you and your partner’s bodies look when they meld together in this side entry position,” explains Gentry. “It’s similar to spooning but with a twist.” We’ll say. The unique angling practically guides his, uh, missile to your G-spot.
To reach numeric nirvana, lie on your side with your guy behind you so that you’re both facing the same direction. Wrap your legs around his top leg and pull him close, pushing your butt toward him as he enters you. Once he’s inside, straighten your legs in tandem with his so they’re tightly sandwiched together, toes pointed. Stay connected as you simultaneously bend at your waists, while extending your legs at a 45-degree angle away from your bodies. “Folding over and assuming the 77 in this maneuver changes the angle of penetration, creating a direct penile pathway to the front vaginal wall where your G-spot is located,” according to Gentry.
TREND 2: Try A Top-Notch Toy
In recent years, sex toys have seen a rapid increase in sales, with chicks being the majority of their clientele. So is it any wonder that adult toys have gone designer? More and more posh playthings are being produced to up your pleasure. (Check out some interesting finds at Pleasure Place at the G/F of Metrowalk.) Also, innovative staples are seen to up bedroom bliss like the new Vibradom, a condom equipped with a vibrating gadget and an elastic.
“Vibrators have undergone an extreme makeover. There has been a growing trend of ‘sexual couture’—fashionable products meant to be played with and admired,” says Dana B. Meyers, the 29-year-old co-founder of bootyparlor.com.
Once you’ve scored a top-of-the-line titillator, you won’t want to keep it to yourself. So introduce your man to your battery-operated friend. “An electronic toy produces sensations that you or your partner can’t, which adds a new dimension of pleasure,” says Carol Queen, PhD, staff sexologist at Good Vibrations. “Plus, these designer toys are less threatening to men because they’re more likely to be perceived as fun accessories rather than penis replacements.”
To share the love buzz: Pull out your erotic accoutrement the next time you and your guy are doing it doggie-style. “From this rear-entry position, the man has more access to your clitoris,” explains Gentry. While he’s penetrating you from behind, hand him your vibrator and guide him to your bliss button. Then have him experiment with various speeds and pressures as he continues to thrust. If direct contact is too intense, get him to play around with spots that provide moderate stimulation.“The excitement of trying something new coupled with the pulsation he’ll feel on the base of his penis while he’s inside you will be highly erotic for both of you.”
TREND 3: Give Him A Standing O-vation
Apparently all BJs are not created equal. According to sex expert Ian Kerner, PhD, author of He Comes Next, guys are claiming that the hottest new way to be paid lip service is while standing. “More blood rushes to the pelvic region while they’re on their feet, resulting in a firmer erection and ultimately a much more intense orgasm,” says Kerner.
Ready to blow your guy’s mind? Have him stand upright with his feet staggered, near a chair, countertop, or doorframe (he may need to grab on for support when his legs start quaking). Kneel in front of him using a pillow as a cushion. Then hold his penis in one hand and take him into your mouth, alternating between sucking and licking.
Once he starts shaking in ecstasy, form an O-ring with the thumb and forefinger of your free hand and place it firmly around the base of his penis above the testicles. “There are dorsal veins that run along either side of his shaft that pump blood into the penis,” says Kerner. “Because he’s standing, those veins are more engorged than usual. Applying pressure at the base creates a tourniquet-like effect, keeping more blood in his penis for a truly explosive orgasm.”
TREND 4: Fulfill A Phone Fantasy
These days everyone and their dog has a cell phone. Okay, maybe not everyone. But how is our main mode of communication impacting our sex lives? Turns out, it’s making couples more courageous.
“Interacting via technology rather than face-to-face provides an anonymity that often makes it easier for partners to express their desires,” explains Lisa B. Schwartz, PhD, a sex therapist in private practice in Pennsylvania. “More couples seem to be exploring this freedom and sharing fantasies this way.”
If the thought of partaking in phone play leaves you kind of speechless, this passion plan will loosen you up. First thing in the morning, lock your guy in for the evening with a firm text message. ("Cancel your plans. U R mine 2nite.") At noon, divulge more of your pleasure plot in a second text ("My place. 8. Bring a necktie and whipped cream").
When he shows up at 7:25 (the man will be eager, girl), grab the props, make him comfortable on the sofa, and quickly retreat to another room. Then dial him up on his cell from behind closed doors and tell him step-by-step exactly what you wish you were doing to him (“I want to tie you to my bedpost and lick whipped cream off every last inch of you”). Keep up the delicious banter until he has no choice but to hang up and barge right in.
TREND 5: Work The New Lube Job
Once you’ve greased your guy up and kneaded him into a frenzy, progressing from caressing to kicking it has always been a no-no. “Traditional massage products contain chemicals that could damage a condom and promote infection,” explains Lana Holstein, MD, coauthor of Your Long Erotic Weekend.
Grab a lube that doesn’t destroy your love glove and when you’re up to speed on the must-have love lotions, learn these touch techniques. Undress your dude and have him lie facedown. Straddle his back facing his feet so you can focus all of your energy on his butt and thighs. “These muscles are among the largest in the body, yet they’re often overlooked,” says Patricia Taylor, PhD, author of Expanded Orgasm: Soar to Ecstasy at Your Lover’s Every Touch. “Plus, they’re packed with nerve endings, so handling them can be highly pleasurable.”
Work a generous amount of lube into your palms. Make loose fists and rapidly pummel his thighs and tush with the sides of both hands in quick succession to awaken his senses. After a few moan-inducing minutes, change to long, sensual strokes, adding more lube as needed. Intermittently tease him by slip-sliding your hands between his inner thighs, dangerously close to his package. When you sense he’s really fired up, spank him, flip him over, and use your already slippery hands to prime yourself and firm his erection before riding him cowgirl-style.
The Trend We’d Like To Start: THE MOAN-ATHON
To offset the fast-paced world, make time for long, slow sex. Behold, the secret to all-night passion.
- Strike a few poses. Rein in the excitement by varying positions. For example: Once you hit a stride in missionary, sit up, and bump and grind facing each other. Then take a break while you transition to a side-entry pose like (ahem) the 77.
- Halt jackhammering. Rapid-fire thrusting ensures a lightning-quick finish. To tame the tempo, grab his hips while he’s on top and direct him to decelerate. Or get on top so you’re in control of the speed of penetration.
- Try many touches. Every time a new sensation is introduced, your body has a ‘Wow! What was that?’ reaction, which forces you to take a climax-delaying pause. So lick, suck, scratch, squeeze, and rub him all over.